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29 May 2020, 6:04 pm

I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

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29 May 2020, 6:36 pm

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I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

Why do you believe this, Brother Mark?

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29 May 2020, 7:27 pm

Marknis wrote:

I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

What evidence is there to support that assertion?

What would it take for you to believe that people want you to have a relationship?

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29 May 2020, 8:59 pm

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I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

i want you to. When i was single i related to your struggles to get a relationship. Unfortunately I cant give you much advice cuz i basically lucked into a relationship. I really wish i could help but since I don't know how I don't respond to a lot of your posts.

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30 May 2020, 11:45 am

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Is there any sort of working out you can do where you live? Even if it is running around the block a few times and doing push-ups at home or other free weights you may happen to have?

I have actually been getting back in shape since the lockdown started. Since there isn't much else to do, and since TV completely sucks now, I get Youtube on the phone, bring up a Pink Floyd album or 2 on it, and walk around the neighborhood for 60 to 75 minutes every evening, sometimes even a little more. Luckily I do live in a place where it is reasonably safe to walk around outside.

I suppose I could do those things but I find it hard to get up these days unless there is something I absolutely can’t avoid.

I have to frame every exercise session or workout as "This is going to make me more attractive to women." That is about the only thing that can get me really motivated to do it. Has kept me working out for 27 years. I almost always feel better when I am done, also. If nothing else, I feel like I have accomplished something. Exercise has been found to be one of the best anti-depressants. Try putting on some happy music like The Grateful Dead or Bob Marley when you do it.

I downloaded a Pedometer app for my phone a couple of weeks ago. It tracks how far I have walked each day and the number of steps I have taken. Kind of gives me goals to shoot for each day. I just got off some medicine that I was one for 5 plus years that caused me to put on 40 pounds so I have a lot of work to do. I have been able to wear a couple of pairs of shorts I couldn't fit into a few months ago!

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30 May 2020, 2:16 pm

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

What evidence is there to support that assertion?

What would it take for you to believe that people want you to have a relationship?

I keep getting ill will posted to me so I am pretty sure that means others don’t want me to have a relationship.

If they told me they don’t wish for me not to have one and didn’t attack me.

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30 May 2020, 2:38 pm

I would love to see you have a relationship and get out of the rut you are in. I was in a rut like that for years and understand the pain that it causes. It is the worst feeling in the world to feel unloved, and inferior to others because someone wants them and no one wants you. At least that is how I felt for a very long time.

I hope I didn't express anything that came across as ill-will to you. I sure didn't mean for it to. I was just trying to help you look for things you could do while we are stuck in this crazy lock down. I sure hope this gets over with soon.

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30 May 2020, 2:48 pm

Honestly I would quite seriously party down if you got a girlfriend. We don't get enough good news around here.

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30 May 2020, 2:59 pm

Marknis wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

What evidence is there to support that assertion?

What would it take for you to believe that people want you to have a relationship?

I keep getting ill will posted to me so I am pretty sure that means others don’t want me to have a relationship.

If they told me they don’t wish for me not to have one and didn’t attack me.

While I don't believe it will fix everything and that if that's the case the realization will likely be hard to take, I'd be happy for you and hope that my concerns turn out to be incorrect.

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30 May 2020, 7:30 pm

funeralxempire wrote:

Marknis wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

What evidence is there to support that assertion? What would it take for you to believe that people want you to have a relationship?

I keep getting ill will posted to me so I am pretty sure that means others don’t want me to have a relationship. If they told me they don’t wish for me not to have one and didn't attack me.

While I don't believe it will fix everything and that if that's the case the realization will likely be hard to take, I'd be happy for you and hope that my concerns turn out to be incorrect.

Whether or not you want someone else to have a girlfriend has no bearing on whether or not they ever get one.

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30 May 2020, 8:29 pm

Fnord wrote:

funeralxempire wrote:

Marknis wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

What evidence is there to support that assertion? What would it take for you to believe that people want you to have a relationship?

I keep getting ill will posted to me so I am pretty sure that means others don’t want me to have a relationship. If they told me they don’t wish for me not to have one and didn't attack me.

While I don't believe it will fix everything and that if that's the case the realization will likely be hard to take, I'd be happy for you and hope that my concerns turn out to be incorrect.

Whether or not you want someone else to have a girlfriend has no bearing on whether or not they ever get one.

Really?
Are you sure? If you're correct this is a shocking revelation I never could have considered on my own. :wink:

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30 May 2020, 8:35 pm

funeralxempire wrote:

Fnord wrote:

funeralxempire wrote:

Marknis wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Marknis wrote:

I feel like no one here wants me to have a relationship.

What evidence is there to support that assertion? What would it take for you to believe that people want you to have a relationship?

I keep getting ill will posted to me so I am pretty sure that means others don’t want me to have a relationship. If they told me they don’t wish for me not to have one and didn't attack me.

While I don't believe it will fix everything and that if that's the case the realization will likely be hard to take, I'd be happy for you and hope that my concerns turn out to be incorrect.

Whether or not you want someone else to have a girlfriend has no bearing on whether or not they ever get one.

Really? Are you sure? If you're correct this is a shocking revelation I never could have considered on my own.

Really.

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30 May 2020, 9:05 pm

Fnord wrote:

Really.

I haven't been this shocked since I found out wombats make cubic poops.

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31 May 2020, 8:52 am

I’m sorry you’re feeling bad, Marknis.

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31 May 2020, 9:45 am

funeralxempire wrote:

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Really.

I haven't been this shocked since I found out wombats make cubic poops.

If wild dingoes were tracking my every move, I'd probably be shitting bricks too.

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31 May 2020, 10:03 am

Syd wrote:

funeralxempire wrote:

Fnord wrote:

Really.

I haven't been this shocked since I found out wombats make cubic poops.

If wild dingoes were tracking my every move, I'd probably be shitting bricks too.

They just need to have a baby with them at all times. I hear dingos prefer those.

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