Why is one gender required to provide sex and other isn’t?

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^ I don't follow Caribbean birds that much.

Interesting!

The issue is on those women, not on you.

You should never feel forced to do something you are not comfortable with.

If you care about each other, you should be able to discuss your anxiety and they should be patient and understanding.

That will be a much better relationship in the long run

Nobody of any gender should HAVE to. That goes against consent.

Sexist assumptions assume that men WANT TO. That men are always 'up for it'. That women 'give it up'.

Also that men don't want nice romantic things.

Nobody should ever have to provide sex, unless they want to.

I am Boo, Face Of Boo.

In the animal kingdom and with us humans, the male seeks the females, they do the chasing, they are the chasers, we're the choosers. They do the pursuing, we do the deciding. They provide, we nurture. It's all mixed up these days, hence why theirs more divorces, failed several relationships ect. If a man demands sex and a women says no, then let him leave. if he loves you, he'll wait and be there for you!

Love and sex, should be mutual, consensual. No pressure, no demands, no giving in to one another. If someone threatens to leave you, put there needs before you or there interests or faith, then let them go! everything should be based on compromises, love and trust, mutual and reciprocal, consensual ect.

Having committed to a long-term relationship, one partner should not deny sex to the other without a good reason. Of course there might be a good reason, but not being in the mood shouldn't be one of them. The understanding that each enjoys and desires sex with the other should have been a basis for the relationship to begin with. I honestly think one partner should make an honest effort to accommodate the other's physical urges even when they aren't necessarily in the mood to begin with. I think if you can't get yourself into the mood enough to at least satisfy your partners' urges at the time (something over which most of us have little control anyway) then there's something wrong with the relationship and you need to address that or else consider ending the relationship.

I do agree if one partner is actually "demanding" sex then something is seriously wrong but the reason for that needs to be addressed. It's a symptom not the disease.

Agree with you 100% here, Sly.

Sorry if it sounds like a PC response (because I'm not PC), but the disparity you describe may be someone's idea of a traditional male gender role. It's utter horse-hockey. If you don't want to have sex, don't. Your partner should respect that decision. This rule is gender-neutral.

No means no.

I've run into this a couple of times in dating. Being Aspie, I need to know someone very well within the context of a committed relationship before I can have sex. It just won't work otherwise. That was just as much the case when I was 25 as it is now.