Flirting when you’re getting to know someone

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15 Jul 2020, 4:27 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

I’ve had girlfriends from my job.

It’s risky—but it can be done. People meet at work, and get married sometimes. But it can turn tragic, too.

Make sure the person is not in your department, though. Under the same chain of command as you.

You are on a whole different level than rest of us, if you had girlfriends from your job.

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15 Jul 2020, 5:05 pm

Throughout my life I've tended to come on strong to guys... They don't like that very much and I don't like it when some guy comes on really strong to me and I don't know them or I don't know them very well...

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19 Jul 2020, 11:05 am

Flirting is the thing I struggle most with in the online dating world, I dont want to come off as the creepy guy saying innapropriate stuff but also dont wanna sound like i dont like them, so a lot of the time i just end up making pleasant conversation and trying to get to know them that way. More often than not I end up in the friend zone, or the chat just fizzles before it goes anywhere. Wish they had coaches for this sort of thing.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:17 am

roccoslife wrote:

Flirting is the thing I struggle most with in the online dating world, I dont want to come off as the creepy guy saying innapropriate stuff but also dont wanna sound like i dont like them, so a lot of the time i just end up making pleasant conversation and trying to get to know them that way. More often than not I end up in the friend zone, or the chat just fizzles before it goes anywhere. Wish they had coaches for this sort of thing.

And yet you do. Don't BS this community too.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:22 am

smudge wrote:

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And yet you do. Don't BS this community too.

Excuse me? what innapropriate stuff did i say to you?

You doing this shows a lot of class too Ill add. I can let the community know about our whole story if youd like, and things you did/made me do.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:28 am

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19 Jul 2020, 11:32 am

roccoslife wrote:

smudge wrote:

roccoslife wrote:

And yet you do. Don't BS this community too.

Excuse me? what innapropriate stuff did i say to you?

You doing this shows a lot of class too Ill add. I can let the community know about our whole story if youd like, and things you did/made me do.

Stop using this space as a platform to manipulate me.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:33 am

You honestly do think the world revolves around you dont you. Im here to meet other people. People not you. I care about you a lot, but honestly your outbursts and behavior scared me. You could have quite easily ignored my posts but chose not to, thats on you.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:38 am

roccoslife wrote:

I saw what you put. You said you were encouraging me to get help for my "serious mental health issues". Again.

You can NOT change me and you have no right to.

Please leave me alone.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:39 am

roccoslife wrote:

You creepy little sh*t. You gaslighted me and did a lot of irritating things like burping and yawning loudly despite me asking you repeatedly to stop, and eventually I shouted at you for trying to CHANGE ME and then you called me a psycho. You manipulative c*nt.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:40 am

smudge wrote:

roccoslife wrote:

I saw what you put. You said you were encouraging me to get help for my "serious mental health issues". Again.

You can NOT change me and you have no right to.

Please leave me alone.

If you want me to leave you alone then dont make vague accusations on me in a public place out of spite.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:40 am

And then emotionally blackmailed me that you wanted to commit suicide after I said I didn't want to talk to you anymore.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:48 am

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I was tired. I had been at work doing manual labor before coming out of my way to pick you up from central london all the way from southend. When I got there you instantly started complaining instead of being grateful at all, as per. I drank a large mcdonalds coke which i bought when i bought you lunch, sorry if it made me burp.

As for trying to change you, I wont go into it. Maybe i was a dick, sorry, but I called you a psycho because you ONCE AGAIN started screeching loudly when there was people around making a scene. It was a bad choice of words on my part for which i have already apologised. Lets be real though, you did worse things to me in the small amount of time we spent together, and admitted you enjoy being a dick to people, bullying people and seeing how much theyll let you get away with. Id think thats a tad bit more creepy than me losing my rag with you once and for all and calling you a name.

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19 Jul 2020, 11:48 am

smudge wrote:

And then emotionally blackmailed me that you wanted to commit suicide after I said I didn't want to talk to you anymore.

Dont flatter yourself, that wasnt because of you and you know it. The fact that you chose to abandon me when i was at my lowest, especially after Id supported you and ferried you around for full week because you were too also speaks more against you than me.

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19 Jul 2020, 12:06 pm

FFS, I said I was grateful about 3 times, I always say my thank yous and I'm always grateful for any favours people do like that for me. And there's lots of other things you've got wrong/misremembered. There's no use talking to you, everything goes through one ear and out of the other. And you still make yourself out to be innocent despite acting the way you do.

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19 Jul 2020, 12:12 pm

smudge wrote:

The absolute WORST thing I possibly did to you is give you some unsolicited advice that you didnt appreciate (admittedly too often too). Im the first to admit i can be annoying at times, sorry. Lets squash this though please.

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