13 Nov 2020, 5:14 pm
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They sometimes say that when a young girl is mean to a boy it is because she likes him. They also say that some women play hard to get. Perhaps some people keep on believing that & thus sometimes assume that others are into them when the others don't act nice or friendly towards them. The women I made a move on were nice & friendly towards me before that which was why I thought there was a chance they might be willing to give me one but they never liked me in that way.
One what?
13 Nov 2020, 5:15 pm
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Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
Because our social neural circuits misfire and we don’t display the types of socially acceptable behaviour that NT’s expect, and often the odd behaviours of an aspie are perceived as creepy or stalker-ish when an aspie is attempting to pursue someone they’re attracted to.
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13 Nov 2020, 5:47 pm
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Jamesy wrote:
Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
Because our social neural circuits misfire and we don’t display the types of socially acceptable behaviour that NT’s expect, and often the odd behaviours of an aspie are perceived as creepy or stalker-ish when an aspie is attempting to pursue someone they’re attracted to.
A lifetime with autism can never be happy can it?
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13 Nov 2020, 5:58 pm
Jamesy wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
Because our social neural circuits misfire and we don’t display the types of socially acceptable behaviour that NT’s expect, and often the odd behaviours of an aspie are perceived as creepy or stalker-ish when an aspie is attempting to pursue someone they’re attracted to.
A lifetime with autism can never be happy can it?
Why not?
Lots of things make me happy. About to go for a motorcycle ride with my dad before sunset seeing as we’re looking at about 2 weeks of rain before the next possibly dry day. Deeeefinitely happy times out rippin on our bikes!
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13 Nov 2020, 5:59 pm
goldfish21 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
Because our social neural circuits misfire and we don’t display the types of socially acceptable behaviour that NT’s expect, and often the odd behaviours of an aspie are perceived as creepy or stalker-ish when an aspie is attempting to pursue someone they’re attracted to.
A lifetime with autism can never be happy can it?
Why not?
Lots of things make me happy. About to go for a motorcycle ride with my dad before sunset seeing as we’re looking at about 2 weeks of rain before the next possibly dry day. Deeeefinitely happy times out rippin on our bikes!
Well for one we struggle to find romantic relationships
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13 Nov 2020, 6:03 pm
Stop deriving happiness from the pursuit of a romantic relationship and do other things you know make you happy. Boom, happy moments! Not exactly a lifetime of misery if you focus your time and energy on things that make you happy.
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13 Nov 2020, 8:46 pm
Then play games.
kraftiekortie wrote:
Go for it!
I'm so old----that I've never owned a home video game in my life. I used to play video games in arcades when I was in my teens and 20s.
I'm so old----that I've never owned a home video game in my life. I used to play video games in arcades when I was in my teens and 20s.
I’ve had game consoles as a kid etc, but I’ve never even owned a tv in my life. I rarely use any of the TVs in the house & don’t really follow any shows etc and don’t play video games so have never had a reason to buy one.
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13 Nov 2020, 10:54 pm
StayFrosty wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
Because Autism is the equivalent of being a Ted Bundy or Charles Manson to them.That doesn't make much sense, sorry.
Rationale, please.
13 Nov 2020, 10:55 pm
Jamesy wrote:
Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
They don't understand us.
Fear of the unknown.
13 Nov 2020, 10:56 pm
Jamesy wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
Because our social neural circuits misfire and we don’t display the types of socially acceptable behaviour that NT’s expect, and often the odd behaviours of an aspie are perceived as creepy or stalker-ish when an aspie is attempting to pursue someone they’re attracted to.
A lifetime with autism can never be happy can it?
Look on the bright side.
Most people aren't happy.
13 Nov 2020, 10:59 pm
Jamesy wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Why are we perceived as creepy stalkers?
Because our social neural circuits misfire and we don’t display the types of socially acceptable behaviour that NT’s expect, and often the odd behaviours of an aspie are perceived as creepy or stalker-ish when an aspie is attempting to pursue someone they’re attracted to.
A lifetime with autism can never be happy can it?
Why not?
Lots of things make me happy. About to go for a motorcycle ride with my dad before sunset seeing as we’re looking at about 2 weeks of rain before the next possibly dry day. Deeeefinitely happy times out rippin on our bikes!
Well for one we struggle to find romantic relationships
Obviously, that was your context.
Yep, life is a biatch.
We just have to make the best of it.
Some get "lucky".
Some don't.
Such is life. <shrug>
