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09 Dec 2020, 8:06 am

Pepe wrote:
Wow.
Interesting stuff.

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There are people who never fall out of love. I have yet to be proven im Not one of them. I had many partners of both genders and not short relationships[4 yrs and 7 months my longest, online]. They lose the puppy love in maximum 5 months and start being emotionally non present.


So you are saying you are the last to fall out of luv with your partner?
The feelings just get more intense as opposed to my partners, and they never stop. Butterflies, blush like a schoolgirl, be ashamed of my behavior, you name it.
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Their motivation decreases and to quote 'being with you is like a chore'.


They say this to you, or you say this to them?

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Most people fall out of love. Get lazy. Stop working and become more like roommates.


I never have, but the longest relationship I ever had was 5 years.

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They do their own thing. They don't have sex with partner and don't even jack off together. They don't even watch porn together. They are just 'gone'. They don't have the interest, drive and value of creating moments together.

That's not someone I would want to be with, anymore.

I believe these people are no longer in a commitment.



Most relationships fail, yes.
Being in one isn't the bee's knees, more often than not.

They said it to me for years as I was trying to get their feelings back.

Mhm, it becomes toxic but they said they would work on it and that they understand that it happens and they feel the same about taking it to the next level. But they end up being more and more uninterested and insulting in actions and words.

Glad to hear that it didn't cease for you either. Do you think it may be problematic?



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09 Dec 2020, 8:10 am

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Testosterone decreases significantly with age.


Yup, and so does the libdo, whether people want it to happen or not.

Without testosterone, there is no sexual interest, for a male. 8O
Simples.

My libido is still there.
I'm sure everyone wanted to know that. :mrgreen:

Wonderful though not unnoticeable for such a smol skunk. ;D



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09 Dec 2020, 11:04 am

The ladies fear me because i am an animal.



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09 Dec 2020, 11:51 am

Just curious @jamesy. But how did you end up in a conversation like that?



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09 Dec 2020, 2:56 pm

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Testosterone decreases significantly with age.


...but unconditional love never fades.


There's no unconditional love outside parental love.



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09 Dec 2020, 3:57 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ElabR8Aspie wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Testosterone decreases significantly with age.


...but unconditional love never fades.


There's no unconditional love outside parental love.

There's mutual loving, pushing each other to do each other



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09 Dec 2020, 4:08 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There's no unconditional love outside parental love.


Unconditional love is within.



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09 Dec 2020, 6:30 pm

ElabR8Aspie wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There's no unconditional love outside parental love.


Unconditional love is within.


Agrees .......


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10 Dec 2020, 2:40 am

Jakki wrote:
ElabR8Aspie wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There's no unconditional love outside parental love.


Unconditional love is within.


Agrees .......
Unconditional love is self-love but what happens when your health gets too bad, Do you suddenly start hating yourself cuz you are no longer able to love yourself :huh:


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10 Dec 2020, 5:31 am

Rexi wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Wow.
Interesting stuff.

Rexi wrote:
There are people who never fall out of love. I have yet to be proven im Not one of them. I had many partners of both genders and not short relationships[4 yrs and 7 months my longest, online]. They lose the puppy love in maximum 5 months and start being emotionally non present.


So you are saying you are the last to fall out of luv with your partner?
The feelings just get more intense as opposed to my partners, and they never stop. Butterflies, blush like a schoolgirl, be ashamed of my behavior, you name it.
Quote:

Rexi wrote:
Their motivation decreases and to quote 'being with you is like a chore'.


They say this to you, or you say this to them?

Rexi wrote:
Most people fall out of love. Get lazy. Stop working and become more like roommates.


I never have, but the longest relationship I ever had was 5 years.

Rexi wrote:
They do their own thing. They don't have sex with partner and don't even jack off together. They don't even watch porn together. They are just 'gone'. They don't have the interest, drive and value of creating moments together.

That's not someone I would want to be with, anymore.

I believe these people are no longer in a commitment.



Most relationships fail, yes.
Being in one isn't the bee's knees, more often than not.

They said it to me for years as I was trying to get their feelings back.

Mhm, it becomes toxic but they said they would work on it and that they understand that it happens and they feel the same about taking it to the next level. But they end up being more and more uninterested and insulting in actions and words.

Glad to hear that it didn't cease for you either. Do you think it may be problematic?


I'm too affectionate, but a lot of that has to do with mt sensitivity to caffeine.
It makes me very emotional.
The entire emotional spectrum is affected. 8O

I've given up coffee, as a result. 8)

Yes, being over emotional is a problem.



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10 Dec 2020, 5:33 am

StayFrosty wrote:
The ladies fear me because i am an animal.


They fear me, also, and not just because I am an animal. Some think I still have my anal glands. 8O



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10 Dec 2020, 5:34 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
ElabR8Aspie wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Testosterone decreases significantly with age.


...but unconditional love never fades.


There's no unconditional love outside parental love.


I have experienced/expressed unconditional platonic luv. 8)



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10 Dec 2020, 7:43 am

I have the same level of interest in sex at 57 that I had at 20 (but vastly greater knowledge and skill). Purely physically, I can't compete with my younger self, but I wouldn't want to. I'm more than capable enough, and my partner has no complaints.


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10 Dec 2020, 1:36 pm

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Age and intimacey!?

I met a couple the other day both 61 who told me that they dont have sex or even cuddle that much anymore.

There reason being they told me "because we are to old"

I dont get it though why does getting mean no sex life etc????


I agree with you, there's no reason it should stop after a certain age.
I'm a very passionate person and I'll never accept having a partner that lets us become "just roommates." I would rather be single than deal with that kind of misery.


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12 Dec 2020, 9:47 am

I am 68 and my wife is 63. We have sex on a regular basis. I can't honestly say what situation I expected when we got married 35 years ago. I do fear the day when one or the other of us becomes physically incapable due to disease or advanced age.


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26 Feb 2021, 1:17 am

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I'm going to be 60 in less than a month. I do not have "low T."

My wife works in a nursing home. She says there's sex going on amongst couples all the time (yes, there are couples who "live together" in nursing homes). There's also the old geezers who flirt with the nurses, and the nurses flirt back :)

Do you believe the "Golden Girls" were lacking in their ability to charm their men?


ya because i feel i have been led or conditioned to believe that people are the most sexually active, in their 20s more than any other decade in life, i feel porn has been an influence on me thinking that way. However, i want to believe that it is still very possible, for people, to have a good sex life or just have a high libido or sex drive, staminia, in middle-ages or above, like that of a teenager, because lets say if my sex life does ever take off or becomes consistent for the first time, keyword if, i would like to make up for lost time.