I'm 19-20 and I've recently been diagnosed with aspergers

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How to communicate: One of the secrets about communication is that you do not need to do a lot of talking. But you need to be a good listener. Learn to ask a lot of questions and draw other people out of their shell.

Socialization: The world's population is divided into two groupings. These are introverts and extroverts. Most Aspie males are introverts. Around half the world's population are introvert and the other half extroverts. Introverts are not party people. So if you want to socialize, the secret is to find introverts hidden away from society and strike up a friendship.

Best Friends: I have found that Aspies can make the best friends. Not all Aspies know that they are Aspies. But if you are very observant, you can spot Aspie traits from a mile away.

Be Bold: Life will pass you by unless you take the initiative. That is true for making friends, for finding a mate, or for living a life filled with adventure.

The eyes: The first form of communications that humans learn is to read the eyes. They can look into the eyes and within a second or two determine if a person is friend or foe. Aspies tend to be oblivious to this form of communications. As a result they project the wrong messages when communicating. The easiest fix to this problem is to deprive other humans from reading your eyes. This can be done by wearing a specific type of glasses (solid mirrored coating glasses, polarized to reflect glare). I prefer the color blue for the coating because: Blue is peaceful, tranquil and symbolizes loyalty. Blue is reliable and responsible. It exhibits inner security and confidence.



Look at the girl in this photograph. What image does she project? If you can't tell, then look at the expression on the young man sitting next to her.

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Since this is your first post - Welcome to Wrong Planet!

If you want to meet people but don't think you have the skills to socialize with them, then perhaps non-social settings should be considered. A volunteer organization or goal-oriented activity would be a way to meet people and be around people but not have the pressure of socializing.

Um. You might want to pick an activity where there are gals. Just remember that, officially, you're there to advance the volunteer cause or accomplish some goal (and maybe being good at that will make a good impression?).