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14 Oct 2021, 3:22 am

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Well that seems weird, why are you giving them so much control of your life...?

Idk if my mom tried to be that oppressive I probably would have went homeless instead, but at least once I was an adult she realized she couldn't make all my decisions for me. But well part of that is I would not have let her...cant you leave or give ultimatum like how can she actually stop you meeting people? Sorry your mom sounds insane but you should find a way to not be controlled by her...just because she gave birth to you does not mean she owns you.

Well I am giving them control because one of the requirements of my church is to be respectful to your parents and if you dont you are worthy of eternal death in Hell.So I dont want to risk that.And also my I would lose everything and be with out food and water and kicked out on the street. i also comply because my parents kicked me out in the middle of the night recently but I dont want to live with my parents anymore but its either be homeless on the streets or be locked up for the rest of my life in a state institution because they refuse to pay for my care and I am currently unable to work.I just hate my what my life has become.I dont know why my mom and dad feel the need to control every aspect and detail of my life.I just want a normal life where i can date and get married but thats just not possible right now or possibly ever.i want to get married after i get a stable job.I have almost lost all hope for a decent future.


Well that sounds insane, sorry you are subject to that. But Idk I don't believe in hell anymore, but idk even when I did I still decided to be a satanist even though I knew that probably meant eternal damnation, but idk I guess I thought I could appeal to satan and be like 'hey I am not a big fan of that god guy either, can we hang out instead of me having to be tortured in the pit of hell? Like if I am in hell I'd have all the time in the world to have a beer with satan...But now I don't believe in any literal god or satan, I am a satanist but that is really just atheism with a symbol.


Even when I was a christian though I still always had a problem with that commandment of respecting the parents, sure good to have some respect...but some parents are abusive and or neglectful and quite frankly why should you go out of your way to respect them if they are like that. I say that is one of the worst commandments, no one chooses their family but one can choose who they cut out of their life and who they keep in it.

I guess I say to hell with what your parents say, you should find a way to get independent from them they aren't helping you.

I guess if that dooms me to hell so be it, at least it sounds a little more interesting and an aesthetic I'd prefer to that of heaven so idk it may not be so bad.


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14 Oct 2021, 3:56 am

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My parents dont allow me to date and I am 31.I want to settle down and get married by 40 and its kind of hard to do that when you are not even allowed to talk to women romantically or go on dates.There's not really any way to meet someone in my town except church.And there's not anyone at church so I may never get married.And the parents of women at church may not want their daughter marrying me i drink beer and wine in moderation.I am not allowed to be a member of dating sites and dating apps.It is so frustrating.Ugh.What should I do?My parents are forcing me to be single.


Lets start with "why"?

they dont think i am ready to date and cant handle it.


And what do they think you need to do before you are ready? (apologies for the questions I'm just curious). Parents are funny, Mine wouldn't let me get a date then one day out of the blue they asked me why I'm not married :lol:

I guess they are too afraid of my feelings getting hurt.

How are you supposed to become an adult without your feelings being hurt every now and then?

Sometimes the best form of respect is respectfully deisagreeing and establishing boundaries. It helps everyone involved.


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14 Oct 2021, 4:02 am

magz wrote:
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My parents dont allow me to date and I am 31.I want to settle down and get married by 40 and its kind of hard to do that when you are not even allowed to talk to women romantically or go on dates.There's not really any way to meet someone in my town except church.And there's not anyone at church so I may never get married.And the parents of women at church may not want their daughter marrying me i drink beer and wine in moderation.I am not allowed to be a member of dating sites and dating apps.It is so frustrating.Ugh.What should I do?My parents are forcing me to be single.


Lets start with "why"?

they dont think i am ready to date and cant handle it.


And what do they think you need to do before you are ready? (apologies for the questions I'm just curious). Parents are funny, Mine wouldn't let me get a date then one day out of the blue they asked me why I'm not married :lol:

I guess they are too afraid of my feelings getting hurt.

How are you supposed to become an adult without your feelings being hurt every now and then?

Sometimes the best form of respect is respectfully deisagreeing and establishing boundaries. It helps everyone involved.

I agree but I cant disagree with my parents for long without risking being yelled at and being cussed out and kicked out or put in a state insitution for decades.My dad has joked about locking me up and throwing away the key so I dont want to cross him too much.



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14 Oct 2021, 4:32 am

You have to get away from them!
Love the sinner, hate the sin. Respect your parents but not abuse.


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14 Oct 2021, 5:16 am

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You have to get away from them!
Love the sinner, hate the sin. Respect your parents but not abuse.

I wish i could but its either be homeless or be locked up in a state insitution for decades.



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14 Oct 2021, 5:23 am

Why do you think you would be locked up in a state institution?


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14 Oct 2021, 5:27 am

Because my parents have thought about it and talked about it.and my dad has talked about putting me in a insitution and throwing away the key.Its either that or be homeless or be in a group home but my parents wont pay for group home so i would be in a low quality place because its Texas.



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14 Oct 2021, 5:38 am

You are an adult. Your parents can't lock you up in any institution against your will.
Can you apply for SSI or other allowance? (I'm European, I don't know how it's done in US)


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14 Oct 2021, 5:44 am

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You are an adult. Your parents can't lock you up in any institution against your will.
Can you apply for SSI or other allowance? (I'm European, I don't know how it's done in US)

I am still trying to figure it out.Being in a insitution would still be better than being homeless.I cant even get an apartment because i have no credit.



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14 Oct 2021, 5:50 am

Ok so this is quite serious. May I ask whether you trust your parents? If not then you need to contact social services and maybe negotiate anonymously/confidentially with a social services helpline to see if you would be eligible for a group home (I am not sure have this service in Texas) which is shared living with other people with who are semi-independent with moderate-mild mental health issues who live with a social worker or carer on site?

The benefit is it will allow you the independence to find work in your time so that you can save for your own apartment eventually.



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14 Oct 2021, 5:55 am

cyberdad wrote:
Ok so this is quite serious. May I ask whether you trust your parents? If not then you need to contact social services and maybe negotiate anonymously/confidentially with a social services helpline to see if you would be eligible for a group home (I am not sure have this service in Texas) which is shared living with other people with who are semi-independent with moderate-mild mental health issues who live with a social worker or carer on site?

The benefit is it will allow you the independence to find work in your time so that you can save for your own apartment eventually.

well the thing is that because of the government program I am on I am not allowed to save money so it kind of makes me poor until they pass away.



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14 Oct 2021, 6:26 am

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well the thing is that because of the government program I am on I am not allowed to save money so it kind of makes me poor until they pass away.

That does not make sense 8O
Anyway, can't you use that money on dating, then?
Or on a shared apartment rent?


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14 Oct 2021, 6:30 am

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well the thing is that because of the government program I am on I am not allowed to save money so it kind of makes me poor until they pass away.

That does not make sense 8O
Anyway, can't you use that money on dating, then?
Or on a shared apartment rent?

my parents wont let me spend that money on dating.



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14 Oct 2021, 6:38 am

But it's your money!


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14 Oct 2021, 6:47 am

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But it's your money!

Their name is on the bank account though.I am not allowed to have my own bank account because i could possibly go over the dollar amount and the money goes to my moms account.Its really technically my moms and dads money that they manage for my benefit.I cant even afford an apartment or to split an apartment.



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14 Oct 2021, 7:01 am

Who is the one not allowing you to have your own bank account?


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