Opposites Attract...

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It's like Paula Abdul and that cartoon cat:

Actually, I'm a people magnet. It's the bane of my existence.



Carl Jung, the famous pioneering psychologist, said that we are attracted to those qualities in a mate that we have rejected in ourselves. The most traditionally masculine guy in high school becomes the quarterback of the football team and dates the most traditionally feminine girl who just happens to be the head cheerleader. This example is so common that it’s become a cliché.

Beginning in early childhood, in order to protect myself, I rejected all those parts of myself that made me vulnerable. The first to go was innocence. Then, time after time, I would find myself desperately attracted to women who exuded unadulterated innocence. The problem is, I was looking for the innocence that I gave up back when I was a toddler. If you're an adult who has that kind of innocence, then you've got equal and opposite issues to mine. So, I'd eventually lose my mind trying to save her from a cluelessness she nurtured by refusing to take her head out of the sand.

I think the only way 'opposites attract' can work is if they start out way more emotionally healthy that I've ever been and they both refuse to grow as human beings. That way they don't rock the relationship's precarious equilibrium.

There's barely enough room in my queen-sized bed for me with all the plushies.

No I never have dated a woman like that.

"Opposites attracts" "Birds of a feather flock together". Phrases are just phrases. It depends on context.

Does what you have common outweigh what you don't have in common.

Also, a lot of it just comes down to attraction on a natural level. Looks, the energy you both give off, and subconscious stuff. So maybe 2 people could be different in terms of aesthetics, culture, etc. yet be attracted biologically.

For some reason a sugar daddy & sugar baby type relationship immediately comes to my mind of an opposites attract type relationship that can work for both of them. The guy is older, has a lot of money, & likes taking charge. The woman is young & likes being dependent on the guy. A more common version would be a typical couple in a very traditional area. The guy leaves to go to work all day & the woman stays home & handles the housework & raising the kids. The guy likes being in charge & the woman likes not having to worry about making major decisions. Them being opposites can be a symbiotic relationship.

I'm gonna open a can of worms here by saying that in a way men & women tend to be opposites of each other in general. Being biologically different from each other is a form of being opposites. Phrases like "the opposite sex". There is a famous book titled "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" that I never read but I hear the book touches on the ways men & women tend to be different from each other. If similarities tended to be much more attractive than opposites when it came to romantic & sexual relationships, I suspect that a lot more people would be gay.

As for myself, I tend to get along better with people who are more relatable to me because we can understand each other better & they tend to be more accepting of me. I tend to be more attracted to women on an emotional level that I have more in common with. There are plenty of exceptions thou of corse.