Dating a much older person

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You're an adult man, 16 year olds aren't peers or appropriate partners.

Most of the time, it’s illegal for a person 21 or older to have sex with someone under 18 in the US.

I like older men - usually about ten years older but I was with a man 14 years older, for a few years.

Age was never an issue and didn't even stand out in the relationships. That's just what I'm naturally attracted to.

Most states have their age of consent at 16 or 15. At least they used to. My 1st girlfriend was 15 & I was 20 at the time & I had researched the laws then. It's also not uncommon where I'm from for teen girls to date guys who are a bit or even a lot older than them. I know of some cases where girls younger than 18 get married or the guy moved in with her & her family because she was pregnant. One of my neighbors was 14 & involved with various guys who were older than 21 & gave her drugs & alcohol. Her grandparents had tried calling the cops but they wouldn't do anything since she wasn't being forced into anything. She brought up a sexual conversation with me 1ce when we were chatting online & I coulda got with her if I had wanted to. It was shortly after me & my 1st gf had broken up & I was feeling very lonely but I turned her down because it woulda just been a sexual thing since she already had a boyfriend who was my age or a year older than me & I was hoping to have a chance for a relationship with her older sister who was kinda the opposite of her & much more my type. I didn't talk to em a lot but I liked having conversations with her sis when we did talk which was in person when we did. I had kinda thought that maybe it's cuz things were different in the deep south but my current girlfriend's mom had married my gf's dad when she was 17 & he was a little bit older because she was pregnant. I think it was the same thing with my grandparents on one side of my family & my grandpa was 9 years older than grandma.

Yes, I’ve known people like that, too. And I’ve never really judged. I’m talking about the laws. My girlfriend’s sister lived with a 30 year old when she was 13.

You were 20, not 21. Big difference.

I had a legal relationship with someone 15 when I was 18. We were both in high school. My maturity level at age 18 wasn’t high. More like a sophomore in high school when I was a senior.