Personality or Looks?

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I choose personality over looks any day.

Yes, but you wouldn't even consider a girl if you didn't find her attractive at all.

So that still makes looks important.

If i like someone's personality, unless they are very ugly by everyone's standards i get attracted to their looks too.

I am not too picky when it comes to looks either. At my college campus for instance, I easily find at least 50% of women walking down the street attractive enough. So my only requirement when it comes to physical appearance is that I have to be physically attracted to you at least somewhat. You don't have to be the hottest girl in the room, there just has to be at least some level of physical attraction present. If I think you're ugly on the other hand, i'll never consider you as a romantic partner.


And only when a girl has passed the looks/appearance check, will I take her personality and our overall compatibility into consideration.

as long as they are average, then personality.

Most people would not be open to forming a relationship with someone they get along really well with but where there's zero potential for physical attraction, or someone they find extremely attractive but whose personality and values they can't stand.

The better question would be, if one has a choice between dating someone they can tolerate being around but find extremely attractive, or someone who just passes their physical attractiveness threshold but who has a very compatible personality, which option would one choose?

I think for a serious, committed relationship, the latter is the better choice. For short-term dating, flings or "friends with benefits", the former is the better choice.

Personality all the way. I am sorta demisexual & I also have bad vision

if you saw me face to face, could you tell what i looked like?

If you weren't dressed as santa

mebbe i should change my avatar then, to the one where i'm dressed in my god suit?

True

sexual attractiveness catches my eyes first. unfortunately, i have found [from my time in the army and in college] that sexually attractive people more often than not tend strongly to be sociopathic. i remember reading that psychologist robert hare [who studied dark triad traits in populations] said a majority of porn actors are thought to have antisocial traits at least.

I don't think there's a correlation between looks and personality. People regardless of their attractiveness level have a spectrum of different personalities.

Iv'e met some attractive people who were warm, friendly, funny; just like iv'e met some attractive people who were more reserved, cold, high strung, etc... And the same goes for ugly people.

I have noticed that looks can vary based on different personalities. For example different cultural groups have their own style of dress & personality quirks. I tend to find certain groups more attractive cuz I can relate to some of their personality characteristics like EMO, goth, hippy, punk, & nerd, geek, & d0rK. There are plenty of exceptions thou. I find plenty of other people attactive who have different personalities & styles & there's a lot of people in those groups who I don't find attractive. There is no hard set rule or anything but in genereal I do find those groups more relatable & attractive as a result & they do tend to have certain clothing styles. I don't subscribe to any specific cultural group thou. I don't try to conform or rebel. I go my own way & try to be myself & stand true to my own beliefs but I change as I learn, grow, & mature. There's just some groups I find more relatable than others & some groups can be more accepting of me than some & others tend to be more judgemental against me but there are plenty of individuals within each group.

Outer beauty fades, inner beauty remains. A fun personality and a warm are worth more in the long run.

Does looks or personality matter more?

It depends on what you're looking for.

If you're looking for a hookup or one night stand, it's mostly based on physical appearance. If you're going to hookup with someone at a bar, you probably don't care what their personality is like or whether or not they would be a good mother/father to your children. You just want to have sex; so you'll go for the most attractive person you can get with.