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31 Jul 2007, 9:20 pm

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I'm going to keep being friends with her....I'm stronger than I think I am (I hope).

Maybe I'll get over her one day, but i don't want to give her up as a prescence in my life. So, so few people understand me. :roll: It's addictive when someone treats you with kindness. :heart:

I'll accept her kindness and keep rolling with my life. Who knows what may happen? :?: :D


As much as I admire your attitude, you might want to think about taking a break from talking to her to let yourself heal a bit. If you try and stay friends with her at this point, it's going to really hurt when she starts seeing someone else (which in all probability will happen sooner rather than later).



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31 Jul 2007, 9:41 pm

Nice avvy Julie! :nerdy:


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31 Jul 2007, 9:49 pm

Spot17 wrote:
Serendipper wrote:
I'm going to keep being friends with her....I'm stronger than I think I am (I hope).

Maybe I'll get over her one day, but i don't want to give her up as a prescence in my life. So, so few people understand me. :roll: It's addictive when someone treats you with kindness. :heart:

I'll accept her kindness and keep rolling with my life. Who knows what may happen? :?: :D


As much as I admire your attitude, you might want to think about taking a break from talking to her to let yourself heal a bit. If you try and stay friends with her at this point, it's going to really hurt when she starts seeing someone else (which in all probability will happen sooner rather than later).



Yes, I am practicing a sort of Buddist "letting go" meditation. It's working lovely. :lol:

I look at it like this...we had a GREAT time together. As some have said, and as I believe (even though SHE would never admit it, there are other guys that want her too. She feels forced to put me in the friend category to eliminate her confusion of who to be with. So it was like she automatically got defensive when I told her that I loved her, becuase to her that would mean eliminating her other romantic choices.

I may be overanalyzing, but what the hell...that is my mind for you...always breaking things down to the basic facts as i see them in order to gain a clearer perspective.

I got one amazing gift from her though...she helped me break out of my shell big time. AS is some BS. I don't want some tweaks in my neural net to dictate my life choices. If I want to go out and date women, then that's what I will do. It won't always be what I want it to, but it will be better than sitting inside my head all day, and then one day regretting that I never conquered my obstacles, genetic or otherwise.


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01 Aug 2007, 9:58 am

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CDHarris wrote:
Acting the way you do on here only confirms that these women made the right choice. If you had fallen "head over heels in love with them" you'd probably respect their decisions rather than hating them and referring to them as "dumb b*****s" when you find out that they aren't interested in you. Guys like you are what their defense mechanisms are meant to protect against.


Hear, hear.
I didn't see that. Maybe I'm missing something important here.


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01 Aug 2007, 5:32 pm

Pandora wrote:
I didn't see that. Maybe I'm missing something important here.

It's not based solely on that one post. It's something I've been wanting to say for a while.



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02 Aug 2007, 7:43 am

I just don't understand. He seemed nice enough.


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