ironpony wrote:
Oh I think what she meant was she doesn't want to just stick to dating one race only, as she felt that would that be close minded I think she meant, if that makes sense.
She is indigenous American but also has some white in her as well.
My mistake. CRT is not exclusively related to African Americans, but holds pretty much that white people are the scum of the earth.
I’m not ignoring that the British did some horrible things or that racism isn’t an ongoing problem. But I’m not responsible for what my ancestors may or may not have done.
I get that she wants to be open-minded. But here’s the thing: she sees you as privileged, and she’s freely choosing to date you. That makes her a gold digger. You are her ticket out. If she really loves you and you love her, demonstrate what it means to be optimistic and hopeful. Show her what it’s like to be a winner. By dating you, she’s found her ideal mate and she’s not a victim. Excuse me, I meant to say by dating you she’s CHOOSING to not be a victim.
Now, if she’s never going to see things that way and she’s going to continue sponging off your privilege, it might be best to part ways. So you laugh at off color jokes. So what? You can’t live your life walking on eggshells around any romantic interest.
I’ve never dated outside my race. I was never interested in biracial dating long-term, but never exactly opposed to it. Besides that, I never had the opportunity. But I did date someone who was hypersensitive to all kinds of things. My jokes were never funny, everything I said was offensive. After a while she wondered why I never spoke to her, or gave one word answers to her questions. Or why I didn’t seem like the same person when we first met. We’ll, I guess I’m just never going to change. If you liked me when we first started dating, why try to change me? It just gets cruel after a while to hang on to a person like that when what they really need is for you to let them go. I’m not saying that’s where you are or that you should break up. I’m just saying don’t hesitate to consider her happiness when she might be unwilling to leave you but would be better off with someone else. If you can’t laugh at funny jokes or you’re always looking over your shoulder or generally can’t be yourself because it upsets her, you’re doing her a favor by cutting her loose.