The worst rejection you got from a woman?

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variations on "fkkk off creep/dweeb/spazz!"
variations on "you're weird!"
variations of "go away or i'll sick my BF on you!"
variations on a sneer and cold shoulder.

This is one rejection that particularly hurt me.

It was Wednesday, December 20th of 2017. I just turned 22 years old and it was the first date I had ever been on in my life. It was a girl I met on an online dating site. Normally I would get left on read before even getting a girl on a date but this time, I was actually able to succeed in getting a girl off the app and on to an actual date, so of course I was pretty happy and excited about that.

Anyways, because it was my first date ever, I was so nervous and I remember actually walking inside and just having a huge amount of anxiety. When we were talking, my whole body was shaking and I wasn't able to talk loud enough or look her in the eyes a lot of the times due to my nerves. Anyways, she kept making excuses about how her mom is calling her home and after about an hour of talking, she said that she had to go.

After our date, I tried texting her but she didn't respond back. It had been 12 hours, then 24 hours, then 48 hours, then more than 2 days, and she still didn't get back to me. I think after a couple days, she opened my text but left me on read. After that, I just wound up blocking her. So clearly, not only was this girl not into me, but she didn't even have the respect to actually tell me and just took the cowardly way out.

I remember being so depressed and anxious; I was laying in my bed and feeling sad all day on thursday and my whole body was shaking too wondering when she was going to respond back until realizing after more than a day that it was never going to happen. I mean, I eventually got over it after a month or two but at the time, it felt horrible.

my dear man i hope you no longer put any of these folks up on a pedestal, they don't deserve it if they treat you like that.

I never got rejected in that sense because I don't even try with someone who never showed very obvious signs of interest.

will you please give me a clue on just what "very obvious signs of interest" are?

- Frequently initiates texting/communication with you
- Frequently attempts to involve you in outings.
- Frequently goes to you to say hello to you whenever she spots you, and frequently attempt to open conversation with you.
- Attempts to give you contact means (phone number, email, facebook...etc).

If she never did any of those then she was never interested.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 14 Feb 2022, 5:47 am, edited 1 time in total.

thank you. that info will be kept in my files i can tell you that once once or twice in my life have i gotten those signals here and there, more there than here. but i've not gotten much of that and not in years now, at least until recently. and for the most part i didn't recognize them at the time, me being too dense. wrong planet indeed.

This happened to me a lot during when I was in HS, so like you (and many others), I still feel idiotic after all these years. I graduated HS in 2008 and sometimes to this day I unexpectedly cross paths with some I went to school with.

WOW I completely feel your upset bro. I mean that first part about the girls who walked away wordlessly... as the OP for this thread, I forgot that something like this happened to ME at the age of 21 - there was a group of mostly girls like 4-5 and two guys, and I knew them as acquaintances from some club...then when I went up to them they all looked at each other and took off wordlessly
Yeah, totally f---ng passive-aggressive, and in a hive-mind kinda way.
Of course, the trouble is you can't react in any way, or that would just affirm their perceptions of you as a "mental case" who needs to go to the nut house. I think in that case, you could only react with humour, e.g. "Hey guys, I showered this morning and I took Clorets..."
Or, if you happen to see them, make some sarcastic or passive-aggressive comment back - esp. if you catch one of the group members alone - something like "you're always so polite, you're so well mannered."
What really floored me in my case, is that I'm a decent looking guy, I don't exactly look like Quasimodo and I'm guessing you don't either.

For the "sometimes I would talk to girls and they would give me a look of disgust", was this with females that you already sort of knew from somewhere...? Or was it just an instant, visceral reaction of "uncanny valley" after having just met you?
If the latter, I found that you have to consciously practice masking for a while in a feedback loop of sorts - but you have to play it safe, i.e. be bold but make sure that she doesn't have any guys in her entourage or if she's alone with another female friend or two, you get the idea - last thing you want is some macho meathead threatening you with violence

Served with divorce papers at work by her boyfriend’s lawyer.

2005.
Yeah, first hint should've been that instant messenger programs don't exist anymore

Was skimming through some other chat logs with her...for not being into me at all, she sure did message me a lot...including from her secret "I don't want to talk to anybody else" AIM screen name... ¬_¬

Eh, it is what it is.

did these ones you met later ever grow up to become decent humans?

The majority, yes.

good, that gives me renewed hope for humankind

For me it's just been silence. Lots of it. And the occasional "You're nice, but ..."

I guess the conversation that hurt the most was when I (believed I) was dating a woman in my early 20s, and I was frustrated we weren't progressing. We went into her apartment after a party, I sat down on the sofa and said "So what's the deal? How can we move forward from here?" and she replied "What do you mean, 'we'?"

i think you dodged a bullet with that one.