A reconnection that went bad quick bc of course it did

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How did you go about broaching the subject of the phone calls?

Imo the best way to have approached that would have been not to focus so much on the phone calls themselves, but more the fact that you felt neglected or left out. If you make it all about the phone calls, she'll probably feel like you're trying to control her and stop her speaking to her friends.

Something to the effect of "Hey, I know you like talking to people on the phone, and I understand and respect that, but the last time we hung out, I felt like we didn't really get to do much together. It'd make me happy if in future, we could arrange to spend dedicated quality time with each other at least for some of the time we hang out."

The thing about the kid she thinks is hers is pretty strange.


Ok, that's pretty silly. It's not the responsibility of her friends to be monitoring how much time she's spending with you. The fact that you think her friends would or should even be thinking about that is strange. Especially when they're communicating through phone calls and they don't get to see how low the proportion of time she was actually spending with you was. I assume that they don't know how many hours you're actually spending with her at any given time.

Well, she was telling them that she was with her boyfriend. And if her grandma could call her out on it so can her friends. Them just going along with it is like if no one called me out for having multiple girlfriends.

One of the primary people she's been calling is a guy she used to date who had a kid with someone else. And yet she claims said kid to be hers, going as far to say that she's willing to ADOPT him. When she was being defensive she said "he is my sons dad". HE'S NOT EVEN HER KID!! ! ! ! ! ! !

I generally keep away from partnering up with people with mental health problems. I find they're used suspiciously often as an excuse for someone to do what they like, when they like.