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02 Aug 2007, 7:53 am

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"We should talk. What's your phone number?"

If she gives you it, awesome.

If she says no...

"Haha, I can't believe you thought I was serious." Then walk away.


So when you don't get what you want, lies and manipulation is the path you take?


Ease up dude. This is actually a very cool technique, nothing evil.


Asking someone for their phone number obviously means you want the phone number...

There is a bit of evil in contradicting yourself so quickly. It means no one can believe a word you say...


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02 Aug 2007, 8:48 am

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Okay, you guys are forgetting a couple of things:

1. I am awesome.
2. I am good looking.

Basically, if a girl doesn't give me her phone number, then I don't want it. It basically tells me I'm too good for her.

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yeah, I can't believe how many guys are just like him, too.


Hardly any. That's why I've been on more dates than people twice my age.


thousands, and that is just my personal experience. Go on any chat room. the guy will chat you up and if you don't automatically submit, they curse you out. I am sorry to tell you, it is very typical of males to exhibit your behaviour.

And if you want a pissing contest on how many dates you have had, compared to how many dates I have had, bring it on! :wink:
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02 Aug 2007, 8:50 am

Wouldn't women pick up on the sexist tone rather quickly and be turned off?


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02 Aug 2007, 9:05 am

Most aspie males are not going to have the comorbid personality disorders that allows them to be the "jerk". They suffer the nice guy syndrome and its unlikely they will pull off a very good impersonation of a jerk. So many women will be highly turned off by
the nice guy typical aspie.

I think most dating advice to aspies is rather pointless. Naturally higher functioning persons will be offering advice that often will not apply to lower function aspies. Lower functioning members need basic social skills training that they can get dealing with people in none dating social contexts. Like working a job dealing with people, etc.



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02 Aug 2007, 9:08 am

Pugly wrote:
nb411 wrote:
Pugly wrote:
DataSage wrote:
"We should talk. What's your phone number?"

If she gives you it, awesome.

If she says no...

"Haha, I can't believe you thought I was serious." Then walk away.


So when you don't get what you want, lies and manipulation is the path you take?


Ease up dude. This is actually a very cool technique, nothing evil.


Asking someone for their phone number obviously means you want the phone number...

There is a bit of evil in contradicting yourself so quickly. It means no one can believe a word you say...


now, when a guy GETS the phone number and tears it up into tiny pieces and tosses it in her face. . THEN I will belive he didn't want it in the first place!



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02 Aug 2007, 9:18 am

TheMachine1 wrote:
Most aspie males are not going to have the comorbid personality disorders that allows them to be the "jerk". They suffer the nice guy syndrome and its unlikely they will pull off a very good impersonation of a jerk. So many women will be highly turned off by
the nice guy typical aspie.

I think most dating advice to aspies is rather pointless. Naturally higher functioning persons will be offering advice that often will not apply to lower function aspies. Lower functioning members need basic social skills training that they can get dealing with people in none dating social contexts. Like working a job dealing with people, etc.
Good point - I think much of the dating advice would be for NTs or borderline NTs. We need advice for people further down on the spectrum but still somewhat high functioning. There also needs to be more recognition of female aspie dating and relationship issues.


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02 Aug 2007, 3:00 pm

DataSage wrote:
Okay, you guys are forgetting a couple of things:

1. I am awesome.
2. I am good looking.

Basically, if a girl doesn't give me her phone number, then I don't want it. It basically tells me I'm too good for her.

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yeah, I can't believe how many guys are just like him, too.


Hardly any. That's why I've been on more dates than people twice my age.


Humble too. And your advice is as good
as your personality.



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02 Aug 2007, 3:02 pm

TheMachine1 wrote:
Most aspie males are not going to have the comorbid personality disorders that allows them to be the "jerk". They suffer the nice guy syndrome and its unlikely they will pull off a very good impersonation of a jerk. So many women will be highly turned off by
the nice guy typical aspie.


Yes. But more than that. Most of us wouldn't want
or be able to keep the type of woman who is attracted
to jerks.

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I think most dating advice to aspies is rather pointless. Naturally higher functioning persons will be offering advice that often will not apply to lower function aspies. Lower functioning members need basic social skills training that they can get dealing with people in none dating social contexts. Like working a job dealing with people, etc.


True again. So many of us seem to have such
different stumbling blocks.



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02 Aug 2007, 3:37 pm

Here's another I've used quite a few times upon finding out she's really single:

"Now how is it that such a beautiful woman as you not have a man in her life?"

The response has been highly varied and almost always fuelled a good conversation. Often I found out more about her that way and a few times it did lead to other things.


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02 Aug 2007, 6:30 pm

Worst come on by a fella 20 years my senior (told in dialect):

"Hawny, I ken jist picture you standing in the gate, and turning hiefers as I run 'em down the alley at 'cha. Why, yer as purty as a speckled pup."

Dang. And I turned that down? LOL



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02 Aug 2007, 6:32 pm

Uh I remember a girl looked at me and smiled (I was in a store) she came my way-and I freaked and ran...
I never went back to the store
:(



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02 Aug 2007, 6:42 pm

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Uh I remember a girl looked at me and smiled (I was in a store) she came my way-and I freaked and ran...
I never went back to the store
:(


Sounds like me. I've found that this is
pretty ineffectual.



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02 Aug 2007, 6:48 pm

yeah...it happens rarely now-I look very unaprochable
and I rarely go out
(and I know its ineffectual but what the hell am I supposed to do) :(



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02 Aug 2007, 7:22 pm

Papillon wrote:
Here's another I've used quite a few times upon finding out she's really single:

"Now how is it that such a beautiful woman as you not have a man in her life?"

The response has been highly varied and almost always fuelled a good conversation. Often I found out more about her that way and a few times it did lead to other things.


My brother's answer to this is something like "well, you know. . no matter how good she looks, some man somewhere was tired of putting up with her s**t. . ."



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03 Aug 2007, 5:05 am

Kilroy wrote:
(and I know its ineffectual but what the hell am I supposed to do) :(


Don't ask me. You're still young though. Someone will
grab you by the ears, and force you to pay attention.



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03 Aug 2007, 5:16 am

I always thought I'd use this: Hey! I'm mentally ill, autistic, I've got nothing of value, I've got a grade 7 education and the words prior to this are the most I'll ever say to a human; I can't lie and I just don't want you to get the wrong impression of me, that's all..., you want to talk about death or something?

Next life, maybe.