I don't care for "Love on the Spectrum"

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I've given this some thought and concluded that a relationship between 2 people on the autism spectrum could be very successful but only if both are diagnosed and plan up front to avoid pitfalls. Otherwise one or the other will probably "stray" at some point. I could talk about this at length and may if I find more time.

Kassandra too. I didn't get why Chloe or Cassandra needed help finding a date? sounded like they both just wanted to be on TV

just what kind of "autistic" person wants to be seen on TV? methinks they are just bein' big fish in a little pond.

I agree.

Many will assume that two people will get along as friends or be compatible as dating partners just because both people are autistic, and this definitely is not the case at all. Autistic people can be much different from each other when many people just assume that we are all the same and that we'll bond over our shared autism diagnosis. That's probably why the blind date with another autistic girl I was set up with ultimately failed. The people matchmaking us just assumed that since we're both autistic, we would have a lot in common, when it was quite the opposite. We couldn't have been more different from each other in terms of personality, lifestyle, and values and ultimately, it led to a terrible experience.

I remember when this family, who I went to church with, told me to date another member simply because we were disabled. After that, I never wanted to speak with them again.


I have also seen people introduce two disabled adults out of pity.

I haven't seen the show, accept for one episode so far, but why would the producers only be interested in setting them up with people on the spectrum only, if that's the case?

That was a concern I had. Its suggesting nobody could love an autistic person unless they were autistic.

But what is the point of going with that theme though, if that's the case? If they went the other way, and tried to get them dates with non-autistic people, wouldn't you then have a more say 'forbidden romance' angle to play off of? Not really forbidden of course, but I mean just breaking more of a social barrier when it comes to romance, which will make it more interesting?

In reality most autistic people would be looking for somebody who is NT (just based on the numbers). As I noted, at least two of the females on the show really wouldn't have a problem dating an NT guy. I think they just want to be on TV.

Once again, autism does NOT guarantee compatibility. I've seen people on the spectrum locked up in irreconcilable arguments over and over - including my mother and my grandfather. The "stubborn know-it-all" type of Asperger's runs in my family.

Of course Autism doesn't guarantee compatibility in relationships. Try telling that to much of mainstream society and even to some disability "experts" though. They just can't let go of the fact that not everyone on the Spectrum is the exact same person.

But if they restrict the contestants' (if that's the right word) to only being allowed to date a certain type of woman while on the show, doesn't that increase the risk of them finding someone on their own time, and that romance can then interfere with the show, should they decide to become exclusive?

In some ways it can make things harder.

People may be surprised, but NTs are actually more flexible than autistic people (and more willing to compromise) if they like you.

More flexible how so?

NTs are less fixated about things

That's less of an Autism thing and more of a human thing. Humans regardless of whether you are Autistic or "neurotypical" tend to prefer being around humans they like and/or think are "cool." The issue that many of us on the Spectrum have is that we aren't generally seen as "cool" or "likeable" and generally don't accentuate high status behavior.