Has anyone ever improved their SMV?

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17 Mar 2022, 11:43 am

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For those of you unfamiliar with the term, SMV is short for Sexual Market Value. Your sexual market value is how attractive you are to the opposite sex. The higher your SMV, the easier it will be to attract partners, and to attract higher quality partners as well.
It is an attempt to more clearly define and quantify the sexist "Attractiveness Scale" applied by some males to women.

"Julia Roberts?  She's an 8 or a 9 . . . maybe a 10, but only if it is closing time."


Actually, the most important Sexual Market Value is one's own, be it man or woman. When we counsel other men to get in shape, get and hold a job, exercise, keep groomed and wear clean age appropriate clothes, pay down and stay out of debt, stop watching porn, put away childish things, we are suggesting how they might make themselves more attractive to more women (or any women). Which I think is what the OP is asking here.

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17 Mar 2022, 12:25 pm

rse92 wrote:
. . . get in shape, get and hold a job, exercise, keep groomed and wear clean age appropriate clothes, pay down and stay out of debt, stop watching porn, put away childish things . . .
I never thought of these things as "Sexual Market Value" items.  I always thought they were just part of growing up.



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17 Mar 2022, 6:49 pm

i would rather live in a country/world with a "kindness market value." :idea:



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17 Mar 2022, 7:01 pm

Fnord wrote:
rse92 wrote:
. . . get in shape, get and hold a job, exercise, keep groomed and wear clean age appropriate clothes, pay down and stay out of debt, stop watching porn, put away childish things . . .
I never thought of these things as "Sexual Market Value" items.  I always thought they were just part of growing up.


I feel like thinking of the concept of sexual market value too much or thinking of it in too concrete of manner probably works to lower one's SMV.


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18 Mar 2022, 9:54 am

funeralxempire wrote:
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. . . get in shape, get and hold a job, exercise, keep groomed and wear clean age appropriate clothes, pay down and stay out of debt, stop watching porn, put away childish things . . .
I never thought of these things as "Sexual Market Value" items.  I always thought they were just part of growing up.


I feel like thinking of the concept of sexual market value too much or thinking of it in too concrete of manner probably works to lower one's SMV.


It really does. Most women I know, if they hear a guy talking about sexual market value like it actually makes sense as a concept, will immediately write that guy off as a dating prospect.



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18 Mar 2022, 10:33 am

It's not just males that do it. I remember a news story a few years about a load of female graduate intakes at a blue chip firm were fired for this kind of thing wrt their male colleagues.



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18 Mar 2022, 12:21 pm

This is just my experience but when it comes to SMV, if that's real, is the best way into a woman's pants is usually threw their funny bone. If you can really capitalize on making a lot of women laugh well, that's improving SMV, but that is just my experience.

However, no one ever seems to talk about this component much when it comes to attracting women.



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18 Mar 2022, 12:24 pm

ironpony wrote:
. . . the best way into a woman's pants is . . .
Is that what you think relationships are all about?

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18 Mar 2022, 12:35 pm

No, I don't think that is what relationships are all about of course, but the discussion of this topic was sexual market value of course, so I was keeping in discussion with discussing the sexual part.



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18 Mar 2022, 5:04 pm

rse92 wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Muse933277 wrote:
For those of you unfamiliar with the term, SMV is short for Sexual Market Value. Your sexual market value is how attractive you are to the opposite sex. The higher your SMV, the easier it will be to attract partners, and to attract higher quality partners as well.
It is an attempt to more clearly define and quantify the sexist "Attractiveness Scale" applied by some males to women.

"Julia Roberts?  She's an 8 or a 9 . . . maybe a 10, but only if it is closing time."


Actually, the most important Sexual Market Value is one's own, be it man or woman. When we counsel other men to get in shape, get and hold a job, exercise, keep groomed and wear clean age appropriate clothes, pay down and stay out of debt, stop watching porn, put away childish things, we are suggesting how they might make themselves more attractive to more women (or any women). Which I think is what the OP is asking here.

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That's exactly it



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19 Mar 2022, 9:46 pm

Would anyone care to elaborate on what childish things are? And why they need to be put away?

I see that in one post and have to ask to be specific on that one. My mind struggles to handle abstracts from time to time


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20 Mar 2022, 12:59 am

my guess is that childish things would be akin to things that don't directly lead to financial success in life. that could be gaming above a certain level, a propensity for anime or comic books above a certain small amount, sleeping too much and working/studying too little, not jerking oneself up by one's own bootstraps the way so many amuuuricans seem to think makes so much sense.



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21 Mar 2022, 1:36 am

It's a ridiculous concept because there's not just one "market" or set of standards. This is true even in business. Rolls-Royce, Hyundai, Tesla and Harley-Davidson aren't directly competing or being judged by the same criteria. Likewise, I'm not competing with most men for the same pool of women. Women who'd be interested in, for example, a politically conservative investment banker wouldn't be remotely interested in me, and vice versa.


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