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Try telling that to the many heterosexual guys (and few women) here who have never been with a romantic or sexual partner at all, probably mostly on account of autism-related social issues.
Maybe in your case, there being few like-minded people in your pool of prospective partners inhibits your dating success more than your ASD, but I'd dare say in most cases, ASD poses a greater challenge to one's ability to date than sexuality.
I mean, neither have I, which is probably due to a combination of ASD-related issues and the fact that I hid my orientation completely prior to moving out. But in any case, I'm not saying that the issues brought by having a minority sexual orientation are universally worse than the issues from ASD, or that that's the case for everyone. I'm saying that for myself, personally, it is.
Also there is of course the fact that I'm pretty much closeted for now so that also makes attempts at dating really stressful.
Anyway. This whole thread is a bit silly on my part. I was feeling a bit down when I posted it and I was catastrophising. The other day I managed to finally ask out a girl. I don't know her at all, she was just very friendly and very pretty, so I don't know how it will work out but hey, that's a massive step for me. I set out for myself a plan, a set of rules, I stuck with it, and slowly it is starting to work out. Basically I followed a similar strategy to the one I've been using to make friends with some modifications.
I think I need to accept that any kind of relationship, platonic or otherwise, is always going to come more slowly for me than for other people but it does work out eventually.
Whatever, I reckon I'll be right. Starting a new semester in a couple weeks and I've finally made a couple friends too.
29 May 2022, 5:33 pm
