I Would Prefer to Date an Autistic Guy, but...

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If you're attracted to average looking men, what is it about the majority of autistic men that is below average looking though particularly?

I'm leftist, greenie but never really got into cosplay though I'd be open to it. Wrong country, and hemisphere though! I heard that a lot of male furries are gay though which would make the dream even harder.

hehe it's a bit like a way off dream too... I did a lot of online dating a while back.

To some extent it really is a numbers game, and the number of other people like us are even smaller. You never really know how you'll get along with someone until u meet them, and probably a couple of times.

I was seeing a therapist at the time *AND* doing group therapy ( all pre ASD diagnosis)

General thoughts were to not endlessly text forever, you can build up kinda artificial intimacy, then have a phone call, and you get to the point where you can tell on the phone that you don't ever want to meet in real life!

Not endless phone calls either, arrange to meet and then do it, preferably day time coffee meets as opposed to night cos then alcohol gets involved and then beer goggles reduce judgement etc. but there is just greater expectations of ah hanky-panky and more likelihood of one-night stands... (assuming that is not what you wanted, but I was trying to avoid it. Mostly!)

Actually, that was a while other thing, and I was not so good there... trying to not even kiss before six dates and longer for sex, cos, again, more likely to get over involved emotionally the sooner you start physical intimacy, and what you really want is compatibility long-term over short term physicality.

Again, that is full of assumptions and perhaps unwanted advice!

Do you attend cosplay conventions? that's surely a happy hunting ground for cosplay autistic men

What does lib right mean? Just curious.

What did the autistic men look like with their overall physical appearance?

A lot of folks view it as the greedy capitalists types that would poison local water supply for maximum profit and stuff like that, but personally to me it's more about having right-wing values but more of a libertarian approach, as I've observed lots of conservatives and republicans claim to be about freedom and liberty, but they aren't in practice.

I used to be a Ted Cruz conservative back in high school who would constantly post "hahaha trigger the liberals, only 2 genders" memes and s**t, but at one point my sister told me "if you boycotted anything having to do with liberals, you'd have a very small world" and then I observed how the other men in my family hardly have any other personality than "Angry American" and can't even celebrate a child's birthday party without talking about AOC having horse teeth or about "brandon masks" or go to the grocery store without making a joke about welfare recipients.

-I'm not anti-American, but I'm also not so pro-American that I believe we can do no wrong and that we're the greatest country in the world. I enjoy the *relative* freedom we have as it's where I'm free to enjoy some of my special interests unlike most other countries and wouldn't want to live anywhere else (Switzerland would be a close option though), but I'm still fascinated by other countries and their cultures to wanna travel all over. I also don't fully believe in ACAB, but I know that it's not just "a few bad apples" when it comes to Police here.
-I'm very pro-gun (one of my main special interests but isn't my entire personality), but also don't like people who buy them without training with them or are immature around them, and I also don't support laws like the one in Missouri I think that wanted to require *every* adult to have an AR. I also don't support these moronic militia types who are more interested in civil war with the Democrats than the defense of their community and neighbors regardless of their beliefs. On the other hand, I'm also against most "common sense gun reform" because it's not simply just common sense, will criminalize folks who've done nothing wrong and aren't interested in hurting others, and can easily be manipulated by whoever is in charge that may have an agenda (kinda like voting rights and stuff before the Civil Rights movement.)
-I'm not very religious myself, but support the idea of the freedom to either practice religion or not. I don't believe one must be a regularly church-attending Christian to be considered a "good American". On the other hand, I've seen some folks on the left talk about "freedom *from* religion" which I'm not sure if they're trolling or not, but banning religion to me sounds just as cringe as forcing religion.
-I'm pro-military but am non-interventionist and would much rather we just have a national defense force and protect or own soil, shores, and whatever nautical miles of territory we keep in the seas, but I only support deployment to other countries if they actually and formally ask for our help. At least with reverting back to a national defense force, there wouldn't have to be as big of a military budget and we can use that to spend on other beneficial things.

I used to be a "conquered, not stolen" and "MLK = Good, Malcolm X = Bad" conservative, but then got interested in The Troubles and the Civil War in Ireland and learning about it helped me change my mind on Native American Rights as well as the Black Panthers, Black self-reliance, and Pan Africanism and stuff.

-some of the other leftist ideas I've come around on is being pro- LGBT+ and pro-choice (not anti-natalists, they're cringe too), Environmentalism (Though I prefer education and to encourage people to choose more environmentally friendly options and assist with environmental cleanup work, rather than relying on taxation and government force to do it. It's funny that a lot of conservative politicians and talking heads were boy-scouts and stuff and were taught basic consideration for their community and environment, but now it's just "liberal, tree-hugging BS".

Hope that sheds some light on my some of my personal beliefs and passions!

Some other autistic dating websites/apps besides Hiki:

- Uneepi
- AutismDate
- DisabledMate: Autism Dating Club

Also, although Wrong Planet is not a dating service, I would suggest that you edit your signature line to mention your special interests, not just your RAADS-R score.

Also I would suggest that you edit your WP profile to include your general geographic location. Don't be specific enough to endanger your privacy, but at least say which country you are in, and, if you are in a large country, which state/province/region and/or nearest major metro area.

I'm an autistic leftist furry, but I swing for the same team.

I think we're in the same boat in that an autistic guy seems like an easier connection to make. Yet dissecting that I realize that in a lot of ways, every autistic person is different. Maybe there's a NT person who can fit those, I'm not sure.

All I really want is someone who's not a bellend or demanding attention 24/7 just based on the sheer fact that I am physically and mentally unable to do that. (If I could, I would - I'm a massive people-pleaser. And I've tried.)

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Who is your celeb crush so we can google him?

Probably Patton Oswalt.

I don’t think you’ll find too many Autistics who are interested in conventions, a good many of us don’t like large crowds and loud noise, or don’t hate those things but can only handle them for short periods of time.

At the same time, there are a lot of autistic folks who like Anime and Video games and stuff and I've met and seen a bunch of ND folks at the cons. I like cons, but have more of an issue with how expensive everything is, rather than the crowds.

nvm, I just re-read what you wrote as you did mention "a good many", so it's not like a blanket statement or anything, sorry.

Just look for someone with the same interests as you, and everything should ve good.

Take your time.

Fair point, I took my daughter to a convention in Melbourne and decided to leave as many of the girl's costumes were embarrassingly revealing.

Yeah, Although I am an embarrassingly late diagnosis, I never liked malls, or the crush of crowds.

CyberDad, embarrassing revealing to you or her!?

She probably wouldn't have noticed, IMHO, but yes, there is a tendency to be provocative!