Do us autistics attract predators?

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I def. Seem to attract controlling and overbearing people who want to "protect" me.
And some "delinquent" types which scare me.

I can for sure relate.

From where I am now, I am very thankful for my experiences with these types of people because they sort of force you to acknowledge in what ways you are partly responsible...and provide a great opportunity to work on yourself.

"What unacceptable behaviours did I accept from this person? And why?"

"Why did I ignore and push away those intuitions and gut feelings about this person's true nature? Next time, I'm going to trust myself."

"Now I know what it is that I will accept and will not accept and I can work on developing the skills and the confidence I need to make these boundaries known as needed and to stand up for myself and if needed, reject someone who cannot respect them...with no worries...because I will not overlook my wellbeing for a potential partner."

As you begin to work on the aspects of your life that may have contributed to attracting a manipulative person, you will begin to act in ways as needed that will repel these types of people...or after noticing a trend of a certain type of behavior, you can make a decision to not pursue them any longer.

These are the right questions, I'm also asking myself currently.
My alert sound was ringing very early, but I ignored it. Why didn't I trust myself?

its very difficult to overcome the behavior which other people put in you from the childhood.
My father was an Aspie like me, but unfortunately I grow up with my mother and she was a borderline personality.

That's why I can't avoid to fall into the trap of other people who are similar to her. I can recognize the big Ego behind the friendly character, but I'm not strong enough, in order to fight for my rights and make my borders clear.

How can I protect myself of those people? I think, I already know the answer, but in daily practice it's hard work.

I think we do attract predators. They see how socially awkward we are and they like that. They get the idea that we won't tell anybody what they do to us.