5ft10 in the dating world a disadvantage?

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i don't see why height is such a big deal. People come in all shapes and sizes like dogs do.

I think that you're making too big of a deal out of your height.

I'm 5 feet 7 but its never been an issue for me as far as dating goes.

I hope you find somebody nice soon, Amy

Are you kidding me? 5 ft 10 is far from a disadvantage in the dating world, because you're perfectly average.

The majority of women simply want a man that is taller than they are and at 5 ft 10, you're taller than at least 95% of women.

Height doesn't really start becoming a disadvantage until you're shorter than 5 ft 6.

I wonder what sort of difference in response one might get from women, while wearing 2-1/2" "lift" shoes like those advertised in that YouTube video?

Darron

What would logic say?

Logic would dictate a 5' 10" man is at a complete and irredeemable disadvantage with all women (or men, as the case may be) who will only date men taller than 5' 10".

So that validates your suspicion that you, being 5' 10", have a disadvantage.

However, you have an advantage over all other men who are shorter than 5' 10" with women (or men, etc.) who will only date men who are at least 5' 10".

But I expect you know all that.

I still think you are playing a long con here, but whatever.

If you’re 5 ft 10 and struggling with women, your height has nothing to do with it. You’re literally the average height of a man.

Now if you were 5 ft 4 and struggling with women, then yes your height is likely a contributing factor. But 5 ft 10? Nah

Average male height is ~5'9", so you're slightly above it. And you're taller than most women. I don't think you're at a disadvantage.

Jamesy, I noticed you've made a lot of posts throughout this forum being critical of your body. From what you've said, you're at a normal height and normal weight. I think there's a bigger problem going on - like your body image and confidence - that you need to work on.

The main issue, as I see it, is that shorter guys may be able to overcome this inherent disadvantage when meeting someone in person, if they have other compensatory traits. But the fact that much of modern dating is initiated online leads to disastrous results.
If a woman is able to set a desired height range of potential partners in a dating app or site, and never even sees profiles of shorter guys that don't lie about their height, then there's zero chance that that guy can have the slightest chance to present their (possibly) many other positive aspects.
This seems like a catastrophically discouraging barrier, one that is essentially impossible to overcome when attempting to match online.

Darron

5'10' isn't short at all. I'm the same. I've had plenty of dating and relationship problems, but they were related to autism and bad judgement, not height.

I think it's worth noting that being too tall can also potentially be a disadvantage. Personally, I have a friend who is six foot seven and in the past, women that he's been interested in have told him that they find his height intimidating. Which is a shame because he's not a scary guy.

However, as others have mentioned, five foot ten is around the average US height (estimates suggest around five foot nine or ten in the UK for men, five foot three or four in the UK for women).

I have another friend who is five foot ten and he's previously asked me not to wear heels when around him so I don't look the same height or taller. However, I rarely wear heels anyway, they're a nightmare to walk in and difficult to find in my size. Plus, I lack the balance required. Since I'm five foot eight, when I wear shoes with a wedge or a heel, I look around five foot ten. I knew a woman who is six foot three, my friend would've had a tricky time dealing with her height. My friend group likes to call a woman who is five foot four short, when that's technically around average for a woman. Her girlfriend is five foot nine and likes to tease her. So it's really about perspective.

Interestingly, I knew a guy who was shorter than me but my goodness everyone fought over him. Whenever conversations about the height of guys occur in love and dating, my brain always goes to the line "I just met this five foot seven guy who's just my type" from the song American Boy.