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28 Feb 2023, 3:53 am

Joe90 wrote:
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Well the internet making it so bloody impossible to book weddings is one thing that is delaying our wedding day. It's nothing to do with our relationship, although admittedly we both are procrastinators as well.


I never knew you were planning on getting married.


Oh yes, we've been planning to get married for the last 6 years. Then my boyfriend lost his job so we had to put the wedding off for a while. Then covid happened so we had to put it off again. Then my mother passed, so I couldn't get my head around other things at the time. Now we're trying to get married but we're only forced to do it online and we don't want a big venue as we can't afford it.


A long time them nice to see it's happening soon. Small weddings are always nice too.



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28 Feb 2023, 3:58 am

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I think that people who want to wait, especially if they are past a certain age, are typically religious and could find someone else who wants to wait in their religious community. I’ve seen this specific situation cause a lot of problems to be honest.

Purity culture can be pretty toxic.


I've seen one or two who aren't even religious do it too. I think back in they say when waiting until marriage was a big thing, marriage happened at a younger age. I don't know the motives for non-religious people doing.

I think when people get past 25, subconsciously they might get combative about it and develop a type of tunnel vision. My friend thought that once people get to 30 and they're still waiting, then they're just asexual or avoiding intimacy.



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28 Feb 2023, 2:20 pm

Just Perhaps Not everyone is meant to get married ???? :mrgreen:


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28 Feb 2023, 2:52 pm

Jakki wrote:
Just Perhaps Not everyone is meant to get married ???? :mrgreen:


Well that's pretty much the old definition of a spinster. Being seen as a but if a red flag is nothing new I guess.



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28 Feb 2023, 8:13 pm

Many Widows do become spinsters , and even though the word kinda feels like it has negative connotations.
Like as if you choose not to be with someone is a bad thing , considering the pickens out there . Am almost surprised
there is not a rash ..of people not engaging in trying to get involved with someone !. Am not a person who is too likely to become a victim of societal programming . And if someday , a good person comes along , might be glad i chose to wait . 8O


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