What's your biggest issue when it comes to L&D?

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Biggest issue is probably the fact that I'm extremely inhibited. It's a big problem for me in general, not just for L&D. Adding to that is selective mutism which is not as bad as it once was but I can see it's still there.

I've had a really difficult time these past few years as well, which has left me in a pretty sorry state. I'm still trying to get back on my feet.

Other issues: low confidence, too self-conscious, seem to be developing something similar to scopophobia.

This all keeps me from 'putting myself out there' as well which is probably a good thing. I'd be inviting heartbreak, which really would not help me recover from these things.

A lot of things really, some of which I'd rather not mention as they are probably transient things.

One recurrent problem I have is that I have been overweight for a while now. Which isn't exactly an attractive look for a lot of people. Unless a woman wants a human sized teddy bear as a partner.

I don't have a particularly high sex drive, and a lot of women I come across have a way higher drive in this respect than I have, which is awkward as a dude, since societal stereotypes sometimes portray men as feverish, horny dogs.

The activity, or the forum?

I'm superficially charming at times, but only superficially.

I often seem to be too much in all the wrong ways.

I've become increasingly socially reclusive since hitting adulthood. It's hard to meet people when you don't go out, don't really use chat services, don't use dating websites, don't use mainstream social media, etc, etc.

Too rednecky for people who dislike rednecks, too much of a dirty pinko for rednecks.

I often fail to form attachments to people, or they become my favourite person which tends to be overwhelming for everyone involved.

The most social age for me was 12-13. After that, the few friends I had moved away, and I was alone most of the time. That’s more of an observation than a complaint, though. I was pretty anxious and got burned out easily.

I’ve probably given up on making friends offline at this point. Extreme shyness has always been a problem. Of course, the prospect of getting older with no friends is not enticing. Hmmm.