Ever "dated" anyone from this site?

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No, I don't want to date anyone from Wrong Planet although I would like to meet Merle or likedcalico since they are from Oregon.

I can't say I've even dated an aspie let alone any from this site. My opinion though, I really think it would have to happen offline from the start - something about forum interaction I think really seems to jam things up, takes all the moments and nonverbals out of the picture.

Right now we have a contractor over remodeling the house, my roommate is really psyched about moving to Oregon being that his uncle is making millions in the real estate and development market, he loves the weather, really wants me to move out there but I'm still unsure where my current job leaves me - I need enough experience to get another job and yet the way the senior auditor and branch manager are talking its like they're training me and the other guy to take their positions

For me, I would like to date anyone on here (or any other AS site) who has at least some of the same interests as me (animated sitcoms, art, architecture, science, cars, indie films, comedy films, foreign languages and cultures)

Also, if she's good-looking, that's a plus

Tim

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No, if one means date in the real life sense of the word.
Yes, if one means just a cyber thing. I was not good enough for his tastes.

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Any single ladies here from SWINIL (Southern-Wisconsin Northern_Illinois)?

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ipso facto.

Something else I should mention, if I were to date an aspie I'd want her to be someone who can take a slice of both worlds well and have her sense of self meet rather abstractly in the middle. I mean someone that can have an equal amount of fun and enjoyment in activities that would be deemed by a lot of people here as very NT as much as she can really enjoy the deeper side of herself as well as getting into all the things that have more of a typical aspie leaning. If she was straight on aspie with everything I get that feeling while I could understand who she was and where she was coming from the feeling wouldn't be reciprocal - don't want to be with someone who I'm not right for just as much as I don't want to be with someone who isn't right for me.

Define 'dated'.

I haven't f****d anyone here,
if that's what 'tis meant.

Dated, either online or offline, perhaps gone further than that.

I'd take it to mean strictly IRL, IMO there's no such thing as 'online dating', that's pretty much having a penpal not a S/O.

Not necessarily.

I feel your pain - I've been doing that since 2005. I know I'll never be with her (not unless I go through some serious surgery, anyway), but my desire to torture myself is apparently too strong to resist

Yes

We had great chemistry but it just couldn't work out.

I agree. I mean, "dating" means going out on dates, right? How do you go on an online date? Like, go to the same website together or something? I think the whole concept is lol-able.

I don't think dating means going out on dates. I go out places with lots of people, for goodness' sake.

A long-distance relationship isn't so different from a face-to-face one, in the early stages. All that's missing is touch.

Besides, the general idea is to transition such a relationship into a face-to-face one, right? I've seen this happen successfully a number of times. The logistics can be tricky to swing, but love makes such tasks a pleasure.

So much of even knowing how things will 'work out' so to speak is knowing their nonverbals, knowing yours, how well you can glide when the the text is replaced with real life interaction - its a pretty big gap and you'd often find that you have no idea just going on this. Yeah, sometimes things are straight forward but quite often the very aspect of it being text-based puts things in a really weird place and has people vesting interest when they really don't know what's up fully.

Perhaps I've had an atypical experience then.

When I was attending university, I began two ltrs online (um, not simultaneously mind you). Both guys were from a site I had gone to since I was 14 or 15 years old, so we had been talking for years before we ever got together. The one I dated when I was 19, the other when I was 21. Obviously things didn't go perfectly, but there was absolutely no difficulty transitioning from online to in-person, in either case. They were exactly as they had presented themselves online and over the phone, as was I. Two friends of mine from the same site were married and are still together today. I have also managed to weed out psychos over the net, with ease.

On the other hand, I had a horrible experience with someone I met while volunteering, irl. Turns out that everything he ever told me about himself was either an outright lie or a twisted version of the truth. I never suspected anything amiss until it was too late.

I don't think that I personally get much insight into a person's true self by being physically present. I am inclined to think that for most aspies, it would be easier to "read" and get to know people via the internet, since we aren't tainting the data with nonverbal communication we don't know how to interpret. But obviously this is not the case for all of us.