Majority of autistuc men dont have a girlfriend?

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I did acting classes in Uni and loved them. I did really well too. We had to learn on our own to juggle four items whilst reciting a soliloquy. It was kind of a side project everyone had in addition to the regular work, so we could learn to coordinate our speech with our body movements and concentration at the same time. I can still do it and still remember my soliloquy from Romeo & Juliet. I didn't know I was autistic and it's not like this skill or acting in general still helps me today because I can't even mask, but I can see how acting lessons would help a lot of people with basic social gestures, body language, and conversation skills. After all, they give stage directions and tell how how to act / appear when representing various emotions. There's also improv where you learn to speak to others without a script.

Highly recommended.

^ Yes, that’s what I was responding to.

What it’s like for women in a club situation:

Obviously, some women make the first move. However, if a woman decides that she’s not going to approach guys but is receptive to dating someone that way, she still needs to look friendly and approachable. She may strive to give off nonverbal cues, like flirting, to demonstrate that she’s interested in a specific person all the while, perhaps, experiencing stuff from others that may make her feel uncomfortable to varying degrees. (Women experience a lot of harassment on dating apps and in clubs.) Then after being approached, she needs to handle that interaction appropriately. It’s very complicated and not my cup of tea. I’m very shy and don’t like to approach or be approached by strangers. I’m more about developing friendships with people through friends or meeting someone more organically.

So yeah, I think the “early attraction stages” can be challenging for all genders because it’s not just about guy approaching girl.

Not an autistic man, but the reason I don't have a girlfriend is in large part due to the lack of opportunity to meet anyone. Although I do have plans to attend a couple of late pride events and see if I can make some connections in the community. It's easier to befriend people first, I can never flirt with strangers right away. Not even on apps.

However, I've mostly given up for now and I'm largely just focusing on finding a new job.

I'll admit that I can be oblivious to when women like me unless I'm outright told. Dating apps are a nightmare. I'm usually the one making the first move in those situations. Too bad I'm rather boring.

Alright. May the regular scheduling continue.

I choose not to have one for several reasons. It's hard just managing my life, let alone someone else's. I have had relationships but they were with toxic people and it just made me see that I just can't be with someone else.

I am also repulsed by scents and smells that comes from the human body, so pretty much that takes any form of intimacy out of a relationship along with the fact that I am impitent (sexual dysfunction). While physical intimacy is a big part of a relationship, I know it would never be an successful endeavor.

That's kinda how I've arrived in the asexual spectrum. I don't mind the looks of men, but with the disinterest in intimacy, there's rarely personal connection...at least not yet.

I choose not to be in a relationship. I've heard so many horror stories about relationships, so I choose a life of celibacy.

A bit of people are afraid of making a direct move due to fear of rejection & social embarrassment. If someone is used to relying on flirting they would probably scratch a person off their list if they know directness is required. But in that case they are probably not compatible so it's not really a loss. Some women are direct though but they are probably not typical NT women. That's a major reason why my girlfriends have been on the spectrum & they actually made the first move with me.