Advantages of being single

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I'll put it this way, it would be less than rewarding to even date someone who isn't right for me let alone marry her.

I'd say that I can recognize pretty much any flaw that needs to be fixed within myself, especially over the course of a relationship, and I do whatever I can to fix it just to make myself happy in that I'm being a good partner. However, if a problem was comming from her closed mindedness and like their sh** obviously isn't supposed to stink I have a real problem with that. I'd really need someone who is a bit more open-minded, a bit more self reliant, who isn't all up on conformity like some 1700's Salem village puritans were on religion (I've got all kinds of yuppy beeahhs arround me who are psychos about that and I HATE it), and I have a feeling I will come across a real person one of these days who is single, who does appreciate me for who I am, and all that.

However, if she never comed along, I'm not taking anything less. I won't be happy if someone's trying to mash down my personality, my altruism, my personal ethics, trying to undo and unevolve every bit of wisdom, integrity, or character that I feel I've built for myself just for the sake of my conforming or for the sake of her friends and what they think of her being with me. I'm really hoping that kind of BS is only highschool and mid-20s crap, I really hope I'll meet a girl maybe by the tiem I'm 30 who's got herself together like that and who rejoices in depth rather than hating a guy for it or thinking he's unconfident or not fun for not being as brash and rowdy as some of these class-clown types.

Happy to be single? Right now I am but it's more or less because I just don't have a better alternative right now (at least none that are single and I don't believe in that OPP crap).

John Proctor FTW!

I'm happy being single.

My hobbies (reading, writing and studying) are solitary activities and I'm quite content.

I spend my spare time as I want.

I do whatever I want.

I am the man I want to be, I have utter contempt for NT ideas regarding what someone should do to fit in with the 'sheeple'.

That is enough for me.

It would be nice to have a partner, to share our lives, but I've no talent for 'scoring' and I'm very inarticulate in social situations. But that's what it's all about. That's the big trick. Being able to lie nicely and strut about with an overblown ego.

I have no patience for it.

I've met many people who are single and totally miserable, and they all have one thing in common:

They hate themselves. They are so obsessed with "keeping up with the Jones's", status and attention that they are little more than beasts of burden on the treadmill of society. They cannot open their minds and see their potential because they are damaged beyond repair by the Social Infection which demands conformity.

That is why their relationships turn to crap. How can someone be happy with another person if they are not happy with themselves?

Myself, I only need the net and my books. Then I am happy.

I would like to share this happiness with someone, but I doubt anyone could cope as most seem to need constant reassurances (emotional and financial) and various other emotional impacts to be happy (or to be happy being miserable as are some women I've known who are real drama queens and thrive on self pity).

*rant over*

*reaches for the beer and his book*

Cheers,

Torak.

Right now the stresses of having a "real" relationship are too large a burden to bear. I tend to be friendly to all, but friends to none. I prefer it that way. If the right girl ever comes along, I don't know if I'll be able to express myself to her, which is a worry.

I have had three relationships before... and each of them ended in disaster, with me hating myself, thinking "Oh why can't I this?" and "Why can't I that?".
I feel too scared to enter into one now. I also feel pretty happy with being alone. I would just like friends who put no pressure on me and accept things the way they are.
Temple Grandin has said that she knows she's missing out, but that her life is full and happy too.
That's sort of how I feel.

I have adjusted myself to the reality of my life in this regard. I certainly wasn't happy about it when I was younger, thinking that being completely opaque to the 'rules and regulations' about it was a feature of my 'maladjusted' personality.

I did try when I was younger and without exception, every girl I took a liking to was utterly indifferent or contemptuous towards me.

I think there are unspoken 'rules' about who is allowed to date who in force in most peer groups and as I was a bit of an oddball I was considered a No-Go Area. By about the age of 19 or 20 I had given up on it, realising that it wasn't going to happen after one particular episode of 'unrequited love'.

There are plenty of advantages for being single and many of them have been mentioned already.

Advantages of being single (i'm delibrately choosing to stay single for a year tho cos have screwed up so many relationships)

No-one comments on the fact I eat pasta and sauce 5 or 6 times a week

it doesnt matter so much if my rooms a mess

more time to do stuff i'm interested in

if i'm in a bad mood I can hide on my own - harder when a boyfriend's staying over

no more screwed up weird relationships!

can hang out with friends - less pressure of have to do this have to do that

Not meaning to be a stick in the mud but as you've put the advantages of being single here are some advantages of being in a relationship:

1. Someone to snuggles with at night to keep you warm.

2. Someone who loves you for who you are, (or at least they should)

3. Someone to take turns with the chores (if you live together)

4. Someone who will go to places with you.

5. Someone who does mind you seeing/calling them everyday

6. You can still have alone time and see your friends seperately, if fact you need alone time in my opinion.

7. You can still eat what you want for breakfast and who knows even get breakfast in bed!

8. On weekends you can snuggles and watch TV, (with me the man always gets the remote.)

9. You don't need to spend too much money either, I find the nicest things I've recieved are an unexpected phone call saying he loves me and some sweets shared with me.

10. You can still travel all over the world, and hey, you have someone with you to travel with. I prefer to have someone I trust and who I know will protect me when I go somewhere I don't know.

11. You can still talk to your parents when you want, in fact I've found my boyfriend really gets on with my mother, they had a 3 hour conversation the other day. (Everyone who speaks to my mom though likes speaking to her it seems.)

12. You can have pets, and share the costs for them.

13. You could start something new together and then drive each other to do it.

14. You can still go where you please.

15. You can have an eating contest, share food, feed each other.(I am lucky in the fact that both me and my partner like the same kind of pizza so we get a medium or large and share.)

16. The joy that comes from making another person happy.

17. You can read to each other.

18. Wear what you want, they should love you for who you are, I love corsets and my boyfriend wears the black make-up and we don't care. (He wears the make up on special occasions.)

19. If your in a bad mood they can cheer you up and they'll listen to you.