What are your behaviors when you like someone?

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I will hide until they notice me, which happens to be never. I guess i should be upfront but there is always the fear of rejection and the saturday cartoon senario in which she says no and everyone in school/workplace turns arounds and laughs.

Menthol and ice?

I get noticed a lot. Still end up hiding
though, at least if I'm interested.

I would just be my normal self when liking someone. If she eventually has an interest for me then I figure out from that point at one step at a time.

You know, I normally just go up and start talking to the person. Once, I did not, and I developed an abnormal fixation on the person, which proved to be a very humiliating experience, but I did learn from it. I am glad to get a lot of feedback from you all.

Nowadays, I make the first move. I used to wait for the object of my affection to make the first move, or I would say something to hint that I was interested in her.

This describes most of my previous crushes, but only if I'm interacting with them in a manner that might suggest I like them. The couple times I've directly approached girls for a date, I get physically ill. My heart races, I sweat, feel dizzy, and generally lose it.

If I interact with them formally, or they approach me, I'm fine. As long as it can't be construed as me trying to hit on them, I'm perfectly cool. I remember a girl I had a crush on in college who was in one of my classes. In that setting, I couldn't look her in the eye or talk to her. One night, however, she came to the store I worked at and paid for some items at my register. I was able to smile and talk to her fine.

I'm a bit worried as of late, as I haven't gotten that gut churning feeling in a long time. No one makes me nervous anymore.

When I like someone, I'll often look at them, and when they look back, I'll look away. When I am near her, I will tend to not be able to focus on anything else. When asking her out over the internet, I'll get very nervous, and sometimes not be able to type anything without first asking my dad for help on what to say (it helps in this case that my dad is an aspie as well). When asking her out over the phone or in person, my heart will race, I'll sometimes not think straight, and I will freeze up for like 15 seconds before actually asking her out (as I have found out quite recently). I'm a wreck in person. But if I'm casually talking with her (as in not asking her out), I am surprisingly ok.

Thats exactly the same as me and i feel that way at the moment.

THe common theme seems to be fear, or bashfulness. Is it that you don't know what to say? That you might feel socially inept, or stupid? Are you afraid of the person saying no? OR what the person might think? What would make it easier for you? Should the other person, when knowing that you like them, make the first move? What if the person you liked, liked you, and sent you an e-mail? Would you respond? I generally make the first move with dating. But, my track record is NOT GOOD. I kind of wanted someone to pick me, rather than me picking them. One time, I worked myself into such a frenzy that I couldn't even look the person in the eye, and it ended badly. I would love more feedback from you aspies!

lol it all depends somewhat. Sometimes I'm really really calm around one I like. But sometimes a little reserved somewhat too. I've learnt to be able to adapt my style well though so it all adds to my character.

Although sometimes the way I am around a crush annoys me lol. I sometimes flinch and shake... ¬¬ I can't say why lol it don't make sense to me.

I sort of follow them around, hoping they drop their books or something so I can help them out. That would be so much easier than trying to just walk up and start a conversation.

Yeah, I find stalking someone is
very effective.

Forget diamonds. Nothing says "I love you" better than a stalking.

I think I know how you feel.