Ok bashful aspie men, should a girl ask you out?

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I think that among neurotypical people, it is most often the woman who makes the subtle first move in terms of making the guy know that she is interested and would welcome an overt invitation from the male. This subtle first move isn't going to be picked up by the poor clueless shy Aspie male.

You have to be quite blunt. If he smiles and walks away, then stalk on after him.

If you have invited him to your home for dinner, and you want sex, but he doesn't understand and is about to leave, then just come out and say directly: "Would you like to take a nap with me?" And, if he acquiesces to the idea of a "nap", be sure to remove your clothes, so that he will have a general idea of what is expected.

What would be the point then?

It would be nice to be asked out... but the kind os girl I am attracted to would never do that.

I can, if pushed, get the gumption to ask someone out... but I need to really be smitten with her... and she needs to put forth a great amount of effort to indicate that she likes me.

Actually, being asked out is so strange... I'd probably just assume it's a joke. Unless I really know her, then I'd of asked her out by then.

I would prefer her to use touch as a signal.

I have always been quite clueless about these rituals. Once I asked a woman at work if she wanted to go out to lunch with me. She said no, and I thought "okay, fine." I was rather mystified later when I heard of rumors circulating around that I had some kind of a crush or romantic interest in this woman. This wasn't the case at all. I was only looking for someone to have lunch with, and that was ALL.

Well, I like to think I'm not so sexist that I'd be against being asked out, but I would enjoy asking a girl out and getting a "yes." But, since I have no clue what the f**k girls are thinking, I'd appreciate it if they could show some interest in me first. I mean, if a girl occasionally sat in my lap, hung around me alot more than other people, ect., I'd probably ask her out. But I'd have trouble otherwise.

Yeah, I've experienced that too. When I first started college I met a girl who I thought was alot of fun to be around, but just didn't like her in that way. But, I didn't really have many friends, so I invited her to do stuff with me (ie watch anime in my room) all the time (for the first week or so she was glad to, but then it became "Sorry, I can't."). Needless to say, rumors started spreading that I was some kind of crazed stalker (to this day she claims she didn't think that I liked her, but I others beg to differ).

If she occasionally sat in your lap, yes, even I would pick up on that kind of a clue.

I don't know about rituals either. I have no idea...

The only reason I attempt it with those I am really attracted to... I feel they are so special... that if I don't do anything than all is lost.

I am extremely paranoid and neurotic about it... but I have to do something. So it's kind of a strange twist, I am so attracted to her that even talking with her is difficult... but I psych myself up to do it... I have to.

Since someone who causes me to do this is so rare... and that when it does happen I am so nervous that I fall on my face and lose every attribute about myself that would make me attractive... I have not met much success.

No way in hell!
Just today, a girl who is a total prick & is the leader of a clique tried to flirt with me by getting me to sit with her group, which included her BF while having lunch on a field trip.
Only one member of her group is very pretty w/out makeup & tries to talk to me a lot, maybe she feels sorry for me, I don't know.
Messing with the prick's group is none of my business!

I actually have seen cases where a girl does that to a guy who's just a really close friend, and it meant nothing. The point is, though, that if a girl didn't act like I creeped her out too much, or I felt that she wasn't likely to try to hurt my feelings, I'd ask.

None,romantic love is the god of all jokes LULZ

A friend of mine knows I'm abysmally bad at picking up women's body language... so she emailed me this clue.

I suppose I'd give it a shot if I even slightly liked the girl. I can't obviously expect such things from the girls i do like though.

This is the ONLY way that I get any.
And even then, I'm too scared some of
the time.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php? ... ic&t=31286

For a sad (and still unfolding - I hope) example.

It would make things SO much easier if girls were more willing to ask guys out.

I'd say yes so fast I'd scare her off.