Why do people date over the Internet?

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Because they (stupidly) fall for someone,
who is too far away to touch.

How fortunate that you understand all the protocols involved in such an endeavor.

If you treat the interwebz like something entirely different than reality, then you will find something "normal" done in "real life" to be less normal when done online. If you view them as a similar thing, merely in a different medium, then there will be fewer differences in how you view actions taken in either of those settings.

For me, randomly approaching people I don't know, in any setting (online or offline) and complimenting them on superficial traits seems to be rather idiotic. For you, flirting with people online seems odd. You already stated that you're arrogant, and that you don't normally even give a second thought to opinions differing from your own, but maybe you're capable of at the least acknowledging that differing opinions exist.

Everybody is different. It is as simple as that. Why do some people act differently than you? Because they are not you.

I am completely different - I have several friendly acquaintances that I talk to pretty much every day online, and one person whom I would consider a close friend (this is coming from the introvert extraordinaire) whom I have never met. The Internet doesn't act as a barrier to communication for me, quite the opposite.

Recall that everyone you talk to online is a real person too.

I think that dating people from the internet could be a good thing. It's hard to meet people out there in the real world by other approaches. Dating is hard work though in general. There are no shortcuts.

When I hear or see the words "Internet Dating", I presume most of the time this is to meet people locally (within reasonable distance), but over the Internet. That is something that doesn't interest me and I see it as pointless, for two reasons.

a) If I want to meet a partner I'd rather go through the face-to-face interaction. Whoever's a potential partner on a dating site, I could easily meet face to face anyway. The Internet distorts reality when it comes to the dating game.

b) For me, the point of meeting people online is to meet people from other places, all over the world, not down the road.

They use the internet for the same reason I used the interent...

Because I suck at getting a date in person, and I had no other options to meet women.

It turns out that the women I met on the internet, were just as stupid and/or confused and/or heartless as the ones I met in real life...so yeah...

Prostitutes FTW...if you can find one without a disease...I've given up on women...

Because there's a wide world beyond where you live. There are a lot of people and a lot of kinds of people, and if you live somewhere where the kind you fancy isn't common, but you cannot yet move, where else to turn?

I couldn't have said this better myself.

Tim

Because when you are looking for someone who you are compatible with and who doesn't want sex, ever, its neraly impossible to find someone just in real life.

But you can find the most aming, wonderful, special, beautiful person who is perfgect for you in every way online. My bf goes to school an hour away from my house. if I had to rely on real life I'd still be looking for someone who met the no sex criteria. Instead I'm in the most amazing relationship of my life. I spend every weekend with him and we both visited each other over the summer, but during the week we have to rely on phone and computer because its jsut too far to drive when you have oblkigations and work in the afternoon and work in the morning

lol...I figured you were a woman after reading this first line...

I know...I know...I'm an as*hole...lol.

Actually my bf's bigger on the no sex thing than I am (and yes I've had it, and more than once. I really can't understand what the big deal is. Why would anyone want to that for more than the few times it would take to specifically have a child. I'm definately "missing" a connection in my "wiring" to get pleasure from it, and that cannot be blamed on the sex partner I had by any stretch of the imagination.)

I can't date over the internet, impossible I give up, words are are way too ambigouis and I have little idea what their true feelings are. Too much time for negative thoughts to pop in your head and hearts get broken. In real life, you can usually have a good idea of how they feel about you by the non-verbals, and the connection is deeper. No matter how ...crazy... I am about a girl on a forum, dating will have to take place in real life. *sigh*

I do feel that one may have to sacrifice geographical convenience to find "the one".

Tim

Limiting yourself to only those that are in your general area means that you could miss out on getting to know some really amazing people.

I'd rather be "inconvenienced" by distance than lose such opportunities.

That's the type of attitude I like to see on this forum. Quality should always come first.

Tim

Still, it's the whole experience that I desire.
Love without touching is a travesty, and one
which I can't express myself fully through.