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nb411
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18 Sep 2007, 12:51 am

Skotch wrote:

Now, my question, because I always have one.
Is this an obvious enough sign for some one with AS that you like them? Or do I need to come right out and say it? I’ve posted threads before asking for advice about my relationship with him and I’ve gotten responses saying the only way he’ll know is if you outright say it.


I am a borderliner, and I would have known that it meant you like me. Although I would not be convinced that you wanted anything more than that (touch comfortable friends).



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18 Sep 2007, 1:02 am

pretty much how I would take it
now.



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18 Sep 2007, 4:02 am

gwenevyn wrote:
I'd say that's a pretty clear sign, even for an aspie.

But... did he react at all? Correct me if I'm wrong, guys, but wouldn't even a socially challenged dude at least stroke the girl's hair or squeeze her hand or kiss her forehead or something if he found himself in such a situation with someone he fancied?


I don't think I would. I'd be too afraid of a negative reaction, because you never know whether they mean it romantically or not. That, and the strange emotional problem I developed from dating my first girlfriend (she'd get mad at me a lot and say that what I was doing was going to lead to sex [[she was religious]]). Damned paranoia...



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18 Sep 2007, 11:01 am

It wouldn't have worked for me.


For Example,

One girl in high school got her friends to set up a little skit in the hall:

It was around like lunchtime and there was a lot of people walking to classes and such.

She got her and 3 friends to do this little "skit."

They came up to me and walked right beside me, the girl who liked me walked in front of me, looked me straight in the face, smiled, and said "Hi." She was even waving her haid with one hand and waving to me.

I just said hi back and went and walked to my locker. I was completely 100% oblivious to whole thing and didn't even realized she liked me until about 2 weeks later in which one of her friends told me about the whole thing.

She said she was crying afterward because I did absolutely nothing. I didn't even know I had Asperger's at the time, so i didn't know what I had done wrong.




Same thing happened again when I played Waterpolo.

One of the girls who was on the swim team asked me to walk over to all her friends and meet someone.

The table was full of girls who where on the swim team who were smiling at me(I was really "hot" back in high school) and they told me to sit down.

One of the girls said hello and introduced herself. I just said Hello back, waved my eyes back and forth, and walked away ......fast.


Bound to be oblivious for life. Its best that you just walk up to him and say "HI, I LIKE YOU."

Would make everything so much easier.



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18 Sep 2007, 11:43 am

If he let you get that close to him without issue that's a sure sign that he's at least comfortable being around you. I've no idea if it means he likes you or not. There are too many variables to that equation right now. Best to leave things as they are and keep moving forward for the time being.


Don't feel bad Brian003 I had plenty of women flirt with me in High School and I never picked up on it either. Well not until a good few weeks later anyways. Though I've never had a girl drag her friends into it to get my attention. Mostly they'd work alone.