How many of you are adults and have never had a girlfriend?

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I dated a few times.... had a few short....um..."dalliances". Nothing significant though, no long-term relationships at ALL.... until I met to woman who became my wife.


Now... I just have to combat my AS traits and remember to give her the NT attention she needs... so she'll come back to me before this relationship is over for good.

Im 21 n never had a girlfriend even though i recieved attention 4rm girls dey would talk 2 me even da nxt min dey gone however i had female friends in da past n i still have contact however its quite difficult 2 get on hold wid dem as dey r very busy in dey lives.

I have been on a few dates but have never had a girlfriend. I have had women who were interested a few times but the older I get the lower my self esteem gets due to my lack of experience, and I am never able to interact properly so I just pretend to not notice or to not be interested. I feel that any woman who might feel some sort of initial attraction to me would lose interest as soon as they got to know me and found out that I have never had a girlfriend at 26, or some unscrupulous individual might see this as a vulnerability to try and take advantage of. And now limited lack or contact with people compounds the issue as well, pretty much the only place I go besides dentist/doctors appointments is to buy groceries and nobody is interested in a guy who has to go everywhere with his mommy or daddy to do anything, so I am screwed but not in the way that I would like to be.

31. A few dates. No stable relationships.

It was a concern in my 20s but in my 30s, I've resigned myself to a 'if it happens, it happens, if not, not to worry' attitude and decided to get on with life.

Sorry, serial dater in recovery here... I wish you luck though<3

23

never dated.

I am only 20 yrs old rite now and I've always wanted a girlfriend since I was in high school. In high school and in college today, I would see guys talking or hang out w/ their girlfriends together. I just saw it as a normal thing for a guy, but I didn't have the proper social and relationship skills to initiate a relationship w/ a girl that I found interesting.

However, I have hung out and socialized with a few girls over the summer because I had develop a few social skills. Although I made this accomplishment, I'm not trying to focus on the relationship process just YET because I still have lots of college studying to do and am trying to find an internship. But like just GypsysOdyssey, I WILL NOT give up on the idea of finding love because everyone finds love at a different age. In the words of JaRule "Every thug needs a lady".

21 and 11 months here. Have fantasised about having a gf since I was about 9.. never have even kissed a girl though I know I'm ok to good looking depending on the day. The few times I've been hit on I didn't realise I was being hit on for weeks/months then it suddenly clicked.

And yes, I was just like you too. Guys in high school would tell me that "this girl, that girl and so on likes you and wants to hang out with you". Foolish flirty girls would say "Hey I think your hott and sexy". When I came to those same girls asking if they wanted to exchange phone numbers and hang out, they'd quickly reject me and claim that they had boyfriends. Overall, those people were merely joking or lying to me and I became offended and frustrated. The good thing, however is that this crazy sh*t is not happening in college today.

There is a time and place for everything; it's called college.

There's one thing you must understand about the psychology of social interaction: common mathematical variance. Due to the relative diversity of people drawn to higher education, chances are good there's a relatively wide gamut of interests which may coincide with yours. Unfortunately that doesn't always help people like us.

In my case, I didn't date anyone until college, and that was a disaster thanks mostly in part to my inexperience and accepting the first person who showed any interest in me. Never, ever do that! I can't stress that enough. Difficulty with social cues, being oblivious to subtle character flaws, and willingness to ignore other issues out of love or misguided desperation, are a fool's errand, and unfortunately, all too easy for us. Your already atrophied emotions can suffer a brutal beating, unnecessarily, because you think there's no hope, and accept the first woman who presents herself. I say that, only because we're not likely to actually seek human companionship actively, with any success.

This is coming from a man who, upon first seeing the large gamer/RPG/social-outcast group on campus, ran away until someone later convinced me to attend one of their meetings. Even after three years, I was still a fringe member--not taking part in many activities, not really hanging out with anyone--an outcast among outcasts. Mostly I'd been oblivious to it, but enough years of anything, and you'll begin to notice. I pretty much gave up, but still trolled dating sites, because I'm unwilling to submit to fate.

And at the age of 30, I've had 4 girlfriends ever. Way, way below the average for a healthy male. But them's the breaks. Don't beat yourself up too much over it. I've got a friend who's 2 years older than me who actually has never had a girlfriend, but oddly, he's more social than me because he's a 4th-dan blackbelt and teaches classes. I'm sure, eventually, he'll find someone. I just hope he doesn't pick her by default; it almost happened once already, except she disappeared after successfully scamming him without a single date. I really hope he knows better for next time. All of us should be on our guard, because the natural defenses just aren't there.

Just don't get too jaded; with six billion people on Earth, mathematically, there should be at least one whom can relate to your unique foibles. The real trick is locating him or her.

I've been at university for 4 years and havn't had a single moment romantically, then again it might help if I wasn't in IT/Engineering which is 99% male and if I actually went to classes..

Do not dispair if you are in your early 20's and have never dated...Flakey (my boyfriend) was the same way....a late starter.......He has been through quite alot since then....(he's in his mid-30's now)

50. Dated. No girlfriends.

Oh I hate those stupid @#$^%@#$%^ head-games!! !

[speaking to NT women:] If you're interested, why don't you bloomin'-well SAY SO!?!?!?!?!

I made it to 22 without ever having had a real girlfriend or a real sexual experience. I had basically resigned myself to being a solitary creature for the rest of my life. Things really changed out of the blue though, I'm 26 now and have been in the same relationship for the last four years. Learning to understand another person, and to understand myself in the context of a relationship has been incredibly hard though, and if my partner wasn't as patient with me as she is, we wouldn't still be together after all this time.

I would check these ones out, I hear they are good.