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I can't believe I'm still waiting for it...

Still waiting... surely not long now?

I know waiting for something like this is extremely frustrating. I wish I could give you some good advice on how to get your mind off it, but I'd be doing the same thing if I was in your position.

I will throw this out there though. If you don't hear back from her, don't contact her to find out what's going on. She might need some space to think about it (or there might be something else going on in her life that is preventing her getting back to you - who knows?). You don't want to come off as too emotionally needy.

So far, you seem to be doing great.

Thanks Spot17...
I don't know about others but I often get very paranoid and feel that others, especially those I'm attracted to, lose all sense of respect for me and start disliking me...
Well her sister deleted me from her facebook friends but logic says it's probably because she doesn't know me or something...
And I texted Heather on the 26th, but early on in the day which is unusual by me... she didn't reply.
Little things like that make me think people lose respect for me...

I do the exact same thing. Try not to let the little things get to you. One of my best friends has to keep reminding me that I don't know what's going on in people's heads. Half the time, I end up finding out that the action had nothing to do with me. The other half... well, I just tell myself that if they don't like me, it's their loss and they obviously weren't worth my time anyway. Eventually I even start to believe it.

Yeah... lol
I have a close friend in that way... she's called Faye but she's only an online friend now... and her msn is down.

I don't know why the girl I like ain't been online since 26th lol... ok that's not very long but atm it feels like ages.

I can cope with this stuff... I just want to know what's what.

She still ain't replied... :/ lol

I've been through this before man, it's nuts. I hope it all works out, but even if it doesn't just going forward with it is great for personal growth.

Nothing can beat experience... Even if someone tells you exactly what to do to woo a lady... if you don't apply it and make it work in your own way... it's all for nothing.

The fear of failure is strong, but in the end you are physically no worse for doing it.

Yeah man... lol the fear of failure atm is... well in swings but nothing too intense... I do think she'll say no but I feel I've gone through worse recently so it's no major deal...

I hope College doesn't make it a major deal... I ain't a big fan of that place and have to feel constantly like I'm fighting lol.

I would hope she could be a decent friend though if she says no... but she does know I like her I'm pretty damn sure of it.

That's part of the benefit of the internet, failure is much less public. And part of what makes it so easy to reveal feelings early on.. what real harm is there? The internet is a blessing and a curse to dating and relationships.



It's possible, if she likes and respects you as a person... but just not in "that" way... you can still be friends. As long as you don't try to force or convince her that she should be with you. She's made her choice, just live with it. And enjoy her company and be as good a friend as you can be.

I don't think girls have too much problem with guys liking them while still being friends with them. If she's a great lady, then it just sort of comes with the territory.

After this amount of time, I would almost want to just be turned down rather than kept in the dark. To me it sounds like she's giving you the cold shoulder. Sorry if I'm sounding pessimistic, but that's just the way women are (especially NT women)...

It really depends though, on how often she frequents the site. If she has made posts, after you sent the message.

She may just be busy and need time to respond though, but if she needs time the chances may not be great.

I wouldn't give up hope so soon, unless you get some response telling you for sure. Or much time has passed, it's only been a day right? That's not terrible...

Oh, if it's only been a day, then it's still very much up in the air...

I was just judging by the # of posts that have been made that this was around for at least a few days...

lol she still ain't been online to have a chance to read the message yet.

In that case : don't worry too much. She skips internet for a day - a normal thing to do because few people are online really every day. She probably has not been online and doesn't even know that you sent her a message. I would not fear for a bad reply until she's been online. If she has not been online then it just means she doesn't know yet that you asked her out ; so that is by no means an indication that she'll say "no". Wait until she's been online and draw conclusions afterwards.

And regardless of what she says, remember you did the right thing by asking her. You can be proud of yourself regardless of how she replies.

Absolutely!