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That's a very discriminatory attitude you know.

hand over the books and no one gets hurt X)

as for classical techno music there are a lot of DDR songs like that...I would recomend beethoven's 5th remix, fur elise, and oh phooey I forgot the other one.

No , I am just talking reality . Most girls would think that the guy is creating an excuse for his weaknesses and this is a big turn off for them.
Mild autism/asperger is not like a skin disease or like william syndrome , it's not easily 'visible' and cannot really be recognized by regular people ...no-pro people may recognize a mild autistic as odd or stupid but not as mild autistic.

Saying something like : "oh please . understand my difficulties , I have autism" would give the girl the impression that the guy is trying to use or create an excuse for his weaknesses or trying to win her through pity even if the guy really mean it but most girls (NTs) would misunderstood that ....in all cases,it's turn off for girls.

I must not be really a girl then. I think it's cool.

It's not really a turn-off for me. My boyfriend has it and it actually makes me feel guilty when I get angry at him for his Aspergers-related problems. If I know it's a genuine disorder, I know the person is not making excuses. They just can't help the way they are.

:'( if only all women reacted that way. I have had to kiss two 3 yr and a 2 yr relationship goodbye because being with me was just too "frustrating"

Me too.

Can you aspie girls stop referring yourselves as if you represent the majority of girls on earth? You don't even represent 1%, and I am obviously not talking about this 1%. You aspie girls know very well what asperger is , so stop picking and whine about what I am saying , just be realistic : when a guy tells a NT girl that he's autistic so he can't do nothing about his weaknesses then this girl would probably think that the guy is trying to make an excuse or she would think that he's psychologically ill since she probably has NEVER heard about autism in her whole life and has never saw one , a lot of people think that ausitm is a psychological illness too

As I said,asperger is not easily visible , aspies look as healthy people with nothing wrong with them.

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Whats inside our heads is different to other women in some ways, but not in all. Not by a long way. I have NT female friends who I talk to about relationships and what we like/dislike in men - you know, in that really cliched 'lets drink a bottle of wine and talk about men' way. We all pretty much agree with each other.

Sorry, LePetit Prince...
(in our defense, though, he is asking on WP.)

even NT's can obsess about the one who rejected them, it is a matter of just dealing with it and in time hopefully it will lessen.
and as an NT female i would have to disagree that the AS thing is a turn off, if you came on too strong it might help her to know that's why you did it instead of being a creepy stalker or something. if she cares to know more she would ask or look into it.
i am just learning how aspie's minds work or don't in whatever ways and it is frustrating at times but because i know i put up with a bit more and cut my boy a little more slack.
hope this helps.

Don't we all loath limerence?

My sympathies (: Sometimes, the best thing is to accept the fact that you are in love with her and can't forget her. I tried to get over a guy who broke my heart, but it was all useless. Eventually I just accepted the fact that I love him, can't forget him, and he'll never feel the same way about me. The idea of allocating certain time of the day to thinking about her is good. Maybe meeting a new girl will help you get over her????