lonelyLady wrote:
it's funny that even though the U.S. is supposed to be the "land of immigrants", you aren't treated as an equal in the U.S. unless you were born here 200 years ago. Whatever. I don't want to shift to politics though.
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
See, I tend to be somewhat wary of foreign women to a degree. One reason is the personality and culture gap (if it exists) just because I feel like they just haven't changed or adjusted to U.S. culture which makes it feel real likely that the attraction in and of itself is based on a misconception of my internal identity on their part. The other part, heh, when I did meet an attractive East European or Ukrainian girl back in college I'd always be kinda worried that they had all kinds of relatives in the Russian mob or knew 50 ways to kill me with a paper clip (I know, maybe slightly unrealistic - it does happen).
As for Asian women, I know a lot who are very attractive but at the same time, just like with women of most other cultures - I'd either want to date a girl who's second or third generation American or alternatively a girl who's personality already does fit right in and seems well enough naturally adapted to our culture that I don't have to worry about any interest built on a mental state that she'll be shifting out of within a few years of living here.
I think many people tend to think that the US is cultureless, so upon entering the states they assume that we're all just separate cultures living together, and we all shed our identities once we adopt the title of an American. In reality, America has as much of it's own social norms and memes as any other distinctive culture. What we live everyday we never really assume is our national identity and way of life; we assume what we live is ordinary or plain and other people in different cultures think this way, too. This is the reason why many people say the biggest cultural shock they experienced was when they came back to the US for a foreign country. So I don't think it's entirely unsually for a US citizen to want someone who is also American. People wouldn't expect a person in another country to want to marry or date outside of their culture, but when it comes to the US, people seem to think we're different because we vary in backgrounds.
04 Dec 2007, 3:26 pm
