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07 Dec 2007, 8:24 pm

AdrianB wrote:
'Playing hard to get' is just an attempt to simulate the attractive effect which self-confidence, happiness and subsequently not-neediness bring.
It intrigues and interests potential partners because it emanates success.

When I view my behaviour and actions, I could say I'm "playing" hard to get albeit this is not done on purpose!
I just feel good in the situation that I am in now.
So don't always judge people if they're doing this, it's not always a cheap way to get a girl.


so, you are saying if you don't follow thorough with plans you made when you were 'feeling good' you don't want to be judged as someone that doesn't follow through on those same plans is because that was just something you did when you were feeling good?


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09 Dec 2007, 10:33 am

Veresae wrote:
I understand playing hard to get...a lot of guys are jerks who see girls as expendable, and just want sex, so you gotta test that the guy actually cares. Right?

Well, I'm not one of those kinds of guys who just wants sex, and playing hard to get irritates the hell out of me. Nothing makes me LOSE interest in a girl than her pretending not to care. It makes me feel like she's manipulative, dishonest, and apathetic towards my feelings--and sometimes that's not the case at all, but it feels that way nonetheless.
I think when we get to a certain age we tire of silly games like playing hard to get. Life is too short to do stuff like that.


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