Ever thought about becoming a homosexual?

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Becoming Homosexual?

I'm pretty sure its less something you become and more something you discover you are.

It's nice to hear that your open to love in all its possible forms

I went to bed with a woman twice and didn't particularly enjoy it on either occassion.

I will have to admit to being a homophobe.

When I was young, homosexuals found me attractive on a couple of occasions. I had no idea what they were after, but they sure made me feel uncomfortable.

When I have occasionally picked up the local gay newspaper, I feel disturbed by reading it.

So, no, I don't expect to pick up any homosexual inclinations any time soon.

I'm just not manly enough to be gay. I'm much too wussy. I prefer soft, delicate female bodies.

For me too my romantic life would not be non-existent if I were gay - at least I would be able to get sex, instead of northing.

I could never be homosexual because of all the hate groups. I live in a town that is extremely conservative, and I am actually surprised we don't have a church up here that is similar to Westboro (Fred Phelps' church).

Tim

lol

And what is it that you do that disturbs gays more than any other group of people?

You can't just "become" gay. Sorry, impossible.

Precisely - but the question is just hypothetical. Sort of like, "Would you like to have brown eyes (for example), as opposed to green?"

....one of those use your imagination choices that doesn't exist. Interestly, we had quite a range of response rationals!

But one cannot 'change' your orientation, at least not in reality (I guess one could pretend....but why?)

I like being heterosexual anyway, just natural for me. Of course, there is a range along the sexual orientation spectrum for others, which is fine.

Unless you don't have any orientation to begin with, or forced yourself otherwise (like convinced yourself)

And you can have green contacts

I used to consider myself heterosexual. Some time in middle school I started considering the possibility that I might not be, but I always came to the conclusion that I couldn't be anything but straight. This was my homophobic stage. I didn't have a problem with other people being homosexual - I was just afraid of being so myself.
So it was until highschool when I met a friend who created the comfort level I needed in order to open up and really explore my feelings. She didn't even know how big a role she played until I told her just recently. If it weren't for her, I'd still be afraid to admit to myself that I'm ... whatever I am. I usually say "bisexual" for the simple fact that more people understand it. "Pansexual" might be better, but the joke always comes up that I'm sexually attracted to either pans or everything. Basically, biological gender is pretty meaningless to me. If we feel compatible, that's all that matters.

I'm not sure whether to say I really was heterosexual and then changed over time, or rather that I was always like I am now but previously unable to accept it, having been indoctrinated into a binary male-female system. Looking back, I can see things that might have been clues, but which nobody seemed to notice.

Thought about it.

Tried it.

Discovered that I'm 100% heterosexual.

But I don't regret doing it at all, it cured my uncertainty.

Unfortunately, given the sort of community I grew up in, I figured that if the thought of homosexuals didn't disgust me then that must mean that I was kinda into it.

But slowly I came to realise that there's a difference between not being disgusted at the thought and actually enjoying it.

Very unfortunate that the society and community I was raised in had me thinking like that, rather than just thinking "of course I'm not disgusted, there's nothing wrong with it, but that doesn't make me gay."

Homosexuality is not a decision that can be made like that. It's not even a decision!

Great point, John Hopkins. I think one has to be born gay. I don't think you can consciously make the decision.

Possibly, but since when were we born knowing everything about ourselves?

Was every single one of you here born knowing you have Aspergers? Or born knowing you like ____ and dislike ____?

If you don't consciously think about it, how would you know? I know for me, that I look at someone and I don't see any attraction, so for me I don't know what I am, I can be one or the other, or neither, because I wasn't born with such knowledge.

It may still be genetic, but unless you actually consider it, you really don't know-- Some people are lucky and its obvious what they're attracted too, some people aren't so lucky and its more ambiguous and they must think it out and try different things

I've not seriously considered it myself, but having spent alot of time amongst predominantly gay crowds I've noticed how easily gay men seem to attract partners (note the plural) and thought how much easier it would be if I were.

It's the easiest way to avoid the usual 'male = instigator' that society dictates must happen with the majority of relationships but as some on here have stated, it's not a decision we make, it's who we are, and I am stuck in the unfortunate world of the hetro AS male!

It's not possible to become truly gay, a fake homosexual, maybe. But why? Because that person wants sex in some form and getting sex is easy if you're gay? How can it truly be enjoyable if you're straight? I want the experience of loving a real woman, that's the whole point of it for me. "Manlove" would just totally ruin everything. Being a virgin isn't killing me, and I would never ever think of being "gay" to get some sort of sexual experience. You can't just choose your sexual orientation. People who fake being something they're most certainly not in order to satisfy a primitive sexual desire are weak and worthless.