Alcohole, peer pessure and big mistakes in love

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I remember the one time I drank. It wasn't because of peer pressure so much as stress. Long story short, by the end of the night I was being falsely accused of breaking a window in my house by the police.
Just an example of how everyone makes mistakes.

yeah. I agree with that.

I'm 20, and next year when I turn twenty I know that I'm going to be drinking on my 21st, whether I like it or not.

I drunk this past summer, I was invited to come to a friends place for a night of drinking, that's how he said it.

They knew I was a first time drinker and was surprised that I said yes in the first place. These guys are heavy drinkers. They did say to make sure I ate something before I started and while I was drinking. They did serious drinking and shots. I only did shots. 6 shots, in those small glasses of Vodka or something. not really sure what it was. technically it was only three since the shots were only half shots. Still, I held my liquour.

But I am sorry that I did it. It made me realize that I liked drinking. I'm not a beer person, thankfully, the smell of any beer just is displeasing. I come from a wine drinking family, I wonder if there is connotation there.....?

anyhow. I'm sorry that you had to go though that, and while this next comment may seem out of line, I think it fits perfectly, whatever doesn't kill us, can make us stronger, it helps us realizes our weaknesses and what strong points you need to work on.

I don't seem to be affected by alcohol. I don't know why but I've never been gotten drunk. Perhaps it's because I refuse to drink vodka that isn't distilled from a single grain. Belvedere is my favorite.

im going to sleep for a while tata

Lonelybonesey, in reading your innitial post (I've been out of town for 5 days so forgive the fact that it's a little late) I think I see what really went wrong.

Here's my advice just from what I'm seeing - while there's nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality, drinking, etc. you want to do that on your own terms and from a position of strength. If your with friends who you can trust and you want to drink, your good to go - just make sure its a situation that you can stay in control of and as well that when you drink that you can stay in control of yourself, otherwise if you do find yourself more often blacking out and not being able to bring yourself together by sheer will it may be best not to drink much at all.

With a lot of things in life though, if you want them to go well and you don't want to have it feel like a nagging failure - wait until you really feel ready for it and know that you'd have the self-asurance and grit to handle it like a champ. Some people may disagree with that advice more or less because they feel like life should just be plowed into and that you learn more from making terrific mistakes and taking big gambles (which some people would argue is the 'strong' and 'self-confident' way, I'd just say its good for some and a horrible choice for others), from my own experience though; forging bad memories is not something to laugh at. They can stay with you subconsciously for a long time, effect how your handle yourself in your day to day life, and about the only thing you can do is put distance on them with time and hopefully have enough positive memories replace them.

In other words when you take a dive and do something way outside your usual comfort zone make sure that you really are mentally prepared for it, know what could easily go right or wrong, know what to do if things do go wrong, and have an environment that you can at least deal with and keep your own level of control when it comes to your own autonomy as well as your own business.

Personally, I never want to even touch alcohol... the thought of losing my mind is enough to push me away from it...

Because of that, I also tend to avoid clubs, bars, or any other place where drinking is commonplace...

please don't listen to this guy. (people who say something should NOT preface it by saying "i'm not going to say anything" as it makes one a liar as well as lacking in compassion. and I AM going to say something and that is that, brian, i find your statement contemptible, and equal to saying, "girls deserve to be raped".)

now, lonelybonesey, please don't beat yourself up about this. drinking was not a very smart decision, but it wasn't exactly murder either. (i mean, i think brian's statement far outweighs drinking on the grand cosmic scale of things.)

please try to trust yourself. you knew that it wasn't such a good idea, but other people perhaps did not understand how sensitive you are and the fact that you were on meds, and some people can handle alcohol much better than others. so just try to take it as a learning experience and stand firm the next time the subject comes up.

((((hugs!)))))

Come to think of it everyone on this post i have started have been offering advice that is way more helpful than i ever expected. That is everyone except Brian. Iv re read your post brian maby you should do the same

I was thinking about this on the train up to London yesterday.

Imagine you're in a shop, and you're thinking of shoplifting something nice and expensive. The security guard goes off on lunch break and the shop hasn't bothered to arrange cover for him. Does this make it morally OK for you to steal the stuff you want?

My point is - just because somebody makes it easier for you to do something illegal or unpleasant or harmful to them, (ie. by becoming very drunk) it does not make it ok for you to do that thing.