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09 Dec 2007, 4:05 pm
pakled wrote:
well, one generalization I like to make about women, is never generalize about women...
It's like the old Willie Sutton line (why do your rob banks, Willie?...'cause that's where the money is..
Go to where people are actually dating, or trying to. I had a spell between my last marriage and the present one, and went to some clubs. While there, I spent a lot of time observing the situation (instead of actually getting out there and trying to pick up someone....d'oh!.., and I seemed to see that women want choice. When they outnumbered men, no one danced. It was only when they were outnumbered themselves that things started moving.
Whether it's custom, or sociobiology, there may (or may not) be a tendency for women to be 'picky' about who gets the invite home. Sadly enough, you have to get stiffed by a lot of princesses before you get to your happily ever after. It's a big reason I wound up marrying someone from an online chat room (since defunct). Stranger things have happened.
It's like the old Willie Sutton line (why do your rob banks, Willie?...'cause that's where the money is..
Go to where people are actually dating, or trying to. I had a spell between my last marriage and the present one, and went to some clubs. While there, I spent a lot of time observing the situation (instead of actually getting out there and trying to pick up someone....d'oh!..
, and I seemed to see that women want choice. When they outnumbered men, no one danced. It was only when they were outnumbered themselves that things started moving.Whether it's custom, or sociobiology, there may (or may not) be a tendency for women to be 'picky' about who gets the invite home. Sadly enough, you have to get stiffed by a lot of princesses before you get to your happily ever after. It's a big reason I wound up marrying someone from an online chat room (since defunct). Stranger things have happened.
Hehehe, sly....
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I think the real challenge is finding a place where you can actually connect for who you are. IRL everyone has their defenses up. Online in chatrooms people just see text floating across the screen and so much of it is only valuable in whether or not your hitting the right topic at the right time with the right person watching (and being WP chat is a really difficult place to show your best self - I'd say its probably not the best place to try).
As for what people have said about dating sites so far, I've tried EHarmony and the fact that it isn't working for me I think has a lot less to do with the notion that women that women can just get a guy at anytime (if they want quality it sure as hell doesn't work like that). The trouble I think, as I descovered by my own observations - just look at the adds. All these happy couples who met on places like EHarmony are what, in their mid to late 30's if not older. In my age range, the girls in their 20's good luck finding many profiles where they really project an interesting personality. And its not the fact that they don't have personalities, its like in their 20's people just haven't found themselves well enough yet to actually speak in such decisive terms about their own passions, ambitions etc. - hence you get a landslide of these carbon copy, bland, run of the mill posts where you can't even bring yourself to talk to someone just because you see nothing in writing that even shows that they're the kind of person you'd want much to do with.
That and Neant, Myspace tends to be real cliquish like that - its IRL friend contacting IRL friends mostly and if you do meet someone on there you have all the static in the world to overcome just for the fact that you haven't met. Even if a really interesting and attractive girl finds you on there, setting up a way to meet her IRL is still one of those things where if you don't try it won't happen but if you do try it'll just as easily have her back out over nerves (and safety issues). Great place to learn about people over all and maybe learn some things you hadn't about stuff in general if they have good blogs - otherwise though, its not really the best way to meet a date per se.
09 Dec 2007, 4:48 pm
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09 Dec 2007, 6:17 pm
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
pakled wrote:
well, one generalization I like to make about women, is never generalize about women...
It's like the old Willie Sutton line (why do your rob banks, Willie?...'cause that's where the money is..
Go to where people are actually dating, or trying to. I had a spell between my last marriage and the present one, and went to some clubs. While there, I spent a lot of time observing the situation (instead of actually getting out there and trying to pick up someone....d'oh!.., and I seemed to see that women want choice. When they outnumbered men, no one danced. It was only when they were outnumbered themselves that things started moving.
Whether it's custom, or sociobiology, there may (or may not) be a tendency for women to be 'picky' about who gets the invite home. Sadly enough, you have to get stiffed by a lot of princesses before you get to your happily ever after. It's a big reason I wound up marrying someone from an online chat room (since defunct). Stranger things have happened.
It's like the old Willie Sutton line (why do your rob banks, Willie?...'cause that's where the money is..
Go to where people are actually dating, or trying to. I had a spell between my last marriage and the present one, and went to some clubs. While there, I spent a lot of time observing the situation (instead of actually getting out there and trying to pick up someone....d'oh!..
, and I seemed to see that women want choice. When they outnumbered men, no one danced. It was only when they were outnumbered themselves that things started moving.Whether it's custom, or sociobiology, there may (or may not) be a tendency for women to be 'picky' about who gets the invite home. Sadly enough, you have to get stiffed by a lot of princesses before you get to your happily ever after. It's a big reason I wound up marrying someone from an online chat room (since defunct). Stranger things have happened.
Hehehe, sly....
.As for what people have said about dating sites so far, I've tried EHarmony and the fact that it isn't working for me I think has a lot less to do with the notion that women that women can just get a guy at anytime (if they want quality it sure as hell doesn't work like that). The trouble I think, as I descovered by my own observations - just look at the adds. All these happy couples who met on places like EHarmony are what, in their mid to late 30's if not older. In my age range, the girls in their 20's good luck finding many profiles where they really project an interesting personality. And its not the fact that they don't have personalities, its like in their 20's people just haven't found themselves well enough yet to actually speak in such decisive terms about their own passions, ambitions etc. - hence you get a landslide of these carbon copy, bland, run of the mill posts where you can't even bring yourself to talk to someone just because you see nothing in writing that even shows that they're the kind of person you'd want much to do with.
These success stories on dating sites are so rare and they are posted for marketing reasons, don't you think so? Besides, nothing proves that their marriage will succeed for so long , they never tell us the rest of the story.
10 Dec 2007, 11:28 pm
LePetitPrince wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
pakled wrote:
well, one generalization I like to make about women, is never generalize about women...
It's like the old Willie Sutton line (why do your rob banks, Willie?...'cause that's where the money is..
Go to where people are actually dating, or trying to. I had a spell between my last marriage and the present one, and went to some clubs. While there, I spent a lot of time observing the situation (instead of actually getting out there and trying to pick up someone....d'oh!.., and I seemed to see that women want choice. When they outnumbered men, no one danced. It was only when they were outnumbered themselves that things started moving.
Whether it's custom, or sociobiology, there may (or may not) be a tendency for women to be 'picky' about who gets the invite home. Sadly enough, you have to get stiffed by a lot of princesses before you get to your happily ever after. It's a big reason I wound up marrying someone from an online chat room (since defunct). Stranger things have happened.
It's like the old Willie Sutton line (why do your rob banks, Willie?...'cause that's where the money is..
Go to where people are actually dating, or trying to. I had a spell between my last marriage and the present one, and went to some clubs. While there, I spent a lot of time observing the situation (instead of actually getting out there and trying to pick up someone....d'oh!..
, and I seemed to see that women want choice. When they outnumbered men, no one danced. It was only when they were outnumbered themselves that things started moving.Whether it's custom, or sociobiology, there may (or may not) be a tendency for women to be 'picky' about who gets the invite home. Sadly enough, you have to get stiffed by a lot of princesses before you get to your happily ever after. It's a big reason I wound up marrying someone from an online chat room (since defunct). Stranger things have happened.
Hehehe, sly....
.As for what people have said about dating sites so far, I've tried EHarmony and the fact that it isn't working for me I think has a lot less to do with the notion that women that women can just get a guy at anytime (if they want quality it sure as hell doesn't work like that). The trouble I think, as I descovered by my own observations - just look at the adds. All these happy couples who met on places like EHarmony are what, in their mid to late 30's if not older. In my age range, the girls in their 20's good luck finding many profiles where they really project an interesting personality. And its not the fact that they don't have personalities, its like in their 20's people just haven't found themselves well enough yet to actually speak in such decisive terms about their own passions, ambitions etc. - hence you get a landslide of these carbon copy, bland, run of the mill posts where you can't even bring yourself to talk to someone just because you see nothing in writing that even shows that they're the kind of person you'd want much to do with.
And to add to that if I may,the people you see on the E-Harmony commercials are paid actors/actresses & NOT real couples.They're just reciting a script given to them by the ad's producers/writers to sell a product/service.
Now my experience with myspace/facebook(just signed up at facebook) & dating websites in general has been negative.There are a lot of scammers there & how can you even be sure the person is who they claim to be in their online profile?
Sure their profile may say that they're 25 years old but in reality they could be minors trying to lure adults into a relationship that is illegal(anyone seen Dateline NBC's to catch a predator series lately in which a watchdog group uses an adult decoy posing as a 13 or 14 year old girl to lure online male pedophiles into meeting them IRL through sites such as myspace?) so I've stopped using online sites for dating & instead have chosen direct face to face contact.I've been practicing up a bit by flirting with the ladies dowen at my local Starbucks but alas have yet to meet any single ladies but I guess I'll keep trying anyway.
10 Dec 2007, 11:38 pm
MikeInVa wrote:
anyone seen Dateline NBC's to catch a predator series lately in which a watchdog group uses an adult decoy posing as a 13 or 14 year old girl to lure online male pedophiles into meeting them IRL through sites such as myspace?
Have a seat right there...
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13 Dec 2007, 5:14 am
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You're a detestable moron.
This is good; it encourages people to talk to you.
(I'm being sarcastic.
)Snob
(I'm not being sarcastic.
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