How should I act in front of my crush who has AS?

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The concept of being good looking probably doesn't compute with her (I have the same concern... when people say I look good, they must obviously be lying, as I do NOT look good...)

If you ever do reach her, try to find out what qualities about herself she does like, and stress those whenever you are talking...

Thank you! Probably I won't, but let's see.
Thanks to ToadOfSteel as well - that advice is very good, now it just turned out that it doesn't apply here.
You see, an update: she sent me a message (good, now I don't have to worry anymore) and apparently I got my meaning thru to her, but as she has had traumatic past with two psychopaths, my comments unfortunately resembled their "hooking lines". Dang. I don't think that I'm a psychopath. Anyway, whenever I fall in love with somebody, that inherently means that she is too good for me. So it might be best to forget her in this sense and try to build a friendship - I guess that would be safe enough for her.
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(that means me only, probably your mileage will vary)

My last relationship was with a narcissist. To me being interested in someone with Aspergers is a breath of fresh air. He somehow calms me like no other person I have ever known.

OMG sands, me too. It really has prepared you with the new and refreshing relationship ahead. I take nothing for granted anymore. I love being unconventionally loved. Someone with a mind of their own is such a good thing!!

depends on the seduction. Sometimes the direct approach can be very comforting...the thought of rejection holds a lot of us back. As long as you're not picking china patterns 2 weeks later...

Just feel the situation out...you've got time..

pakled, marriage is the farthest thing from my mind. I'm just getting out of one and am not likely to get involved in another one. I would like to have a committed one on one relationship with this person.

Has this guy had relationships before?

Personally...
In some ways I trust people quickly, in other ways I don't give trust easily. Due to a bullsh*t drama, at least for a while, my heart is going to stay carefully guarded.

He freaked out when you told him you liked him? I kinda did when I girl told me that, because up until that point, I had completely convinced myself that it was impossible for a girl to be attracted to me. I just didn't know how to act.

Just...slight possibility that his issues may be similar to mine. Sorry I don't really have good advice.