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Thanks, Thanks Alot. I try.

Having been in relationships with older men who definately were taking advatage of me, I would say it entirely depends on how you treat the girl, and your motives for going out with a younger girl. I think the motives you list, about your social skills and childish side, are totally fine. If you wanted to go out with a younger girl either because you thought you could get away with not treating her as well, or because you can't feel attracted to a woman who doesn't have the totally firm - childish - body that women over twenty are never going to get back, that would be creepy!

I am 21 and was very naive when I was 18-20, still am a bit now. I think what a lot of girls lack at that age is self confidence, force of personality maybe? I think you would have to be more understanding than with a girl your own age.

exactly right!

and, amen to that last part!

For me sometimes close to me but recently like three years apart from me have attracted me.

aww shucks... theres two points to consider:

point a being legality - thats dependent on where you live.

point b be being love - and i dont see where love has anything to do with age. i, personally, feel easier around people younger than me, too, because i plainly refuse to grow up, and lots of people much younger than me (25) seem to have this drive to behave adult as soon as possible. a german musician recently wrote in an essay that he sees those young conservatives of today wanting to be beyond adult at only 17 years of age - for which he cant say much because he lacks any experience "growing up".
i tend to keep friends who dont subscribe to this pointless modern-maturity craziness too much. (my friends range from 15/16ish to well in their 60s)

of course, there are people who flock around younger girls for insecurity reasons, for wanting to easily be the dominant one, not to be questioned etcetera... and thats just as abusive as searching out physically weaker partners so you can beat them up. to me, it doesnt sound like you have those reasons, so what?

I've found in recent years that I'm attracted to women 1-5 years older than me.

I'd prefer my girl to be within 5 years of my age - either way.

I disagree. For the most part, yeah, teenage girls are more immature than they'd like to admit; I would say that over 90% of those who claim they're mature really aren't (epecially if it goes like, 'OMG, I'm, like, so mature!! !!1!1!!!one!!!1!' Unfortunately, I have seen some do that). However, that doesn't mean that there aren't a few that are mature.

Personally, I've been mistaken as being in my twenties on far more than one occasion. Obviously here my age (17) is displayed, so that's a bit difficult, but in other places I go to (both other forums and in outside life), I'm consistently thought to be in my twenties. It's partly because I look older and partly because I act older.

Anyway... 9/10 year age difference doesn't bother me at all. If you're doing it because you really care about the person, it shouldn't matter.

Teen girls are not more mature than teen guys, it's about equal. I personally have a crush on a 16 year old girl when I'm 18, so it's not to odd to like a girl a bit younger than you. I try to keep it maybe 2 years younger and maybe 1 year older in the other direction.

I agree with RainSong

Gentleman's rules = (your age/2)+7

In your case:

(25/2)+7 = 19.5

Sorry, but gentleman's rules dictate your ladies should be no younger than 19!

I've never seen the point in that whole system...

After all, if a person is 14, the formula comes out as:

(14/2)+7 = 7+7 = 14.

So a 14 year old could only date another 14 year old.

That seems to be the way of it!

Some people never grow up, so age isn't really a factor.

I am 28, and my preference is people close to my age (mid to late 20s, and early 30s)

At my school, most of the students treat it as an extension of high school. The cliques are definitely there, and any guy older than 22 is considered a "creepy old man".

My best friend found a partner who was something like 14 years older (she was 22 I believe). Gentlemans rule was broken, my friends mother was angry... now het mother likes him as a great father to their grandchildren .

I don't think there is anything wrong or uneven about them being together.

Basically, it just depends on the situation.

I would like to keep it within +/- 10 yrs. ,but exceptions can always be made. If love happens, it happens.