Would you dump your boyfriend if he told you this?

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I would have no problem meeting her parents, and would have no problem with her meeting mine.

Tim

No, but I'd want to know why and I'd tell you that my family is very nice.

I can only tell you what I'd do, he's your BF and you know him better then I do.

If my GF wouldn't want to meet my family I would ask her why at a good time, and talkwith her about it. You never know what the reason is. maybe he's just shy, or ashamed of his family, and he thinksthat if he doesnt meet your family you dont have to meet his either. I'd never dump anyone because of what is said, but for the reason (s)he said it

well, it does beg the question of who's hiding what...

Honesty (well, within reason.. is a part of any relationship. I'd probably want to know why you wouldn't want them to be seen. An explanation would probably be in order...

Well, firstly, I wouldn't tell a boyfriend to meet the parents, I'd ask and say it was important to me. Then if he responded like you say, I'd be hurt that you didn't want to meet my family, because they are a part of me and your outright rejection of my family would feel like a partial rejection of me.

But the part about you not wanting to introduce your family would make me step back and ask why. If you were willing to talk about it, and I could understand your reasons for both family meeting denials, I would not dump you then. But if down the road, knowing how important my family is to me, and after talking about all the issues you still outright refuse to meet my family, then I would dump you, I think.

Meeting the parents has always been a cause for strife in my relationships. People's parents never like me. I don't even know why because the only reasons I've gotten have been completely ridiculous. For example, one ex's parents thought I was lying about being lactose intolerant and that I had "given them" bladder infections by using their bathroom (impossible).

No one likes my parents either. Sometimes they like them at first, but it doesn't take long before they tell me my parents are mean, crazy, and creepy.

So, obviously, I would rather just not involve parents in relationships. But if a guy said that to me, I would take some time to try to figure out his motivation, if it was not already apparent.

I'm sorry I bust a gut laughing at this.

No, I wouldn't dump you. I'd give you more time - and myself more time to find out more about you such as why you don't (truly, really) don't want to meet parents. Hmmnnnn. . . I'm sure he likes kittens, balloons, carnivals and rainbows but . . . .
This wouldn't be the sole determining factor if I ought to continue seeing someone. There are plenty of other important things to look for or look at with a person.

This is why i stopped dating completely.
Way,way,way, way before that comes up,
there's "Why don't you want to meet my friends?" and "Why don't you have any friends?"

If a guy said that he didn't want to meet my parents, I'd take it as an indication that he didn't want the relationship to progress further. He is either not ready/scared to move forward, or he wants to keep things casual and he's only with me for the 'benefits'.
A grand dumping is in order if latter is true.