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13 Jan 2008, 5:49 pm

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I kinda think part of it is that NTs are great at cooking up the artificial, so they can do that well off the start just to set the tone faster.


exactly, and so that is what people come to expect.



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13 Jan 2008, 6:03 pm

For me, I would need to get to know the person before deciding whether i have a romantic interest or not. If we went to bed on the first night, i don't think i would consider her relationship material - i would do a one-night stand (not tat i know how) as i'm a 'free man' (i'm no cheater), but i wouldn't start a relationship that way.


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13 Jan 2008, 6:43 pm

pbcoll wrote:
For me, I would need to get to know the person before deciding whether i have a romantic interest or not. If we went to bed on the first night, i don't think i would consider her relationship material - i would do a one-night stand (not tat i know how) as i'm a 'free man' (i'm no cheater), but i wouldn't start a relationship that way.

I don't know. It would be nice to get physical right away, but I would still expect to get some sort of relationship out of it.

I guess it depends on the type of person I wake up next to...



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14 Jan 2008, 2:45 pm

juliekitty wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
I kinda think part of it is that NTs are great at cooking up the artificial, so they can do that well off the start just to set the tone faster.


exactly, and so that is what people come to expect.


Yeah! - It's all about silly games & social status :eew: Why can't people just say how they truly feel? People are so afraid of being percieved as weak or pathetic for being heartfelt and sincere (esp. us guys) I think it's sad :(


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14 Jan 2008, 2:46 pm

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I consider myself a very romantic person. And genuine.

I just started seeing a woman who has the potential for a romance/long-term relationship. The thing is, she wants to jump in and get physical right away. Well, I don't FEEL anything yet.

I want to FEEL romantic before I act on it.

Yes, I can feel LUST for someone, but that is not ROMANCE.

Is this an Aspie thing, I wonder? Or maybe it is just my personality.

The ironic thing is, because I seem to be "holding back", she thinks I am scared or shy or whatever. I am not scared. Yes, I am shy, but the real reason is that I don't feel romantic for someone until I've known them for a while. So, it seems that I am NOT a romantic person, when exactly the opposite is true.

Does this make sense?


Total sense! :D (to me)


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16 Jan 2008, 6:53 pm

autodidact wrote:
Yeah! - It's all about silly games & social status :eew: Why can't people just say how they truly feel? People are so afraid of being percieved as weak or pathetic for being heartfelt and sincere (esp. us guys) I think it's sad :(


Exactly. I know a lot of people have seen me as weird and/or weak when I express my feelings--maybe I am "too honest" for them or whatever.

I am HOPING that someone (OUT THERE) appreciates these qualities about me! :roll:



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20 Jan 2008, 10:39 am

SapphoWoman wrote:
autodidact wrote:
Yeah! - It's all about silly games & social status :eew: Why can't people just say how they truly feel? People are so afraid of being percieved as weak or pathetic for being heartfelt and sincere (esp. us guys) I think it's sad :(


Exactly. I know a lot of people have seen me as weird and/or weak when I express my feelings--maybe I am "too honest" for them or whatever.

I am HOPING that someone (OUT THERE) appreciates these qualities about me! :roll:


Bless your heart! - I do! but unfortunately i'm a dude and not a lesbian :( you'll find someone SapphoWoman and i'm sure she'll love you lots! :)


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20 Jan 2008, 2:49 pm

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Bless your heart! - I do! but unfortunately i'm a dude and not a lesbian :( you'll find someone SapphoWoman and i'm sure she'll love you lots! :)


Thanks! You made my day! :)



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20 Jan 2008, 3:45 pm

SapphoWoman wrote:
autodidact wrote:
Bless your heart! - I do! but unfortunately i'm a dude and not a lesbian :( you'll find someone SapphoWoman and i'm sure she'll love you lots! :)


Thanks! You made my day! :)


:D No prob SapphoWoman! feel free to PM me anytime you want to talk. You ROCK! :D

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