AS daisy-chain - no money, no honey

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well, having been in the same position as you, forgive me if I am a bit amused by the naivety that now you have been diagnosed that everything is going to be hunky dory now!

Merle

There's your problem. Most women aren't into serious relationships anymore... at least very few that I know of...

Come to think of it, most NT's (male or female) are not interested in serious relationships at all... I cite the divorce rate, especially here in the States, as proof of that, as people don't want to deal with long-term commitments anymore...

So what do they want to deal with nowadays?

Tim

I don't expect it all to be hunky dory. It's like a chess game or mystery book. I've the puzzle pieces together now. Every trail leads back to the AS. From there I can work to craft the life I need, or to make lifestyle mods. Since learning of AS, I've challenged myself socially, worked on talking and acting, changed my diet (now Gluten Free), and recently started taking Carnosine. Understanding why I thought and perceived the way I did has really helped me. It wasn't depression, it wasn't because I was stupid, it wasn't because I'm ugly - I just didn't know how to interface with regular NTs, or avoid hyper obsessions.

Be thankful if some of you discovered your AS in your teens or younger, and were able to make adaptations. That alone saved you years of misanthropy, disillusionment and hurt.

I make 90K a year and the type of women that attracts is appalling. They are just losers with a pretty face looking for a meal ticket.

That sucks.

Tim

Personally, I obviously haven't had an issue meeting women. I've been married (and divorced twice), and that doesn't count all my flings in-between. I have noticed in my town though, that many women just don't want a serious committed relationship. I think a lot of this is attributable to things such as divorce rate and the fact they've just been burned one to many times in relationships.

As far as money, I haven't really seen it as a hindrance to completely finding a mate, though it definitely doesn't hurt to have a little to throw around.

I can tell you that no woman wants to hear from a guy how sad and depressing his relationship status is. Most women I know like confident men in general, or at least men that project a confident nature. They will definitely notice that over your pocketbook first.

Finding one I am compatible with is also difficult.

Tim

yes. There seems to be a pattern with guys who think derrogatory terms used to describe women are okay and it's the woman's fault for taking it the wrong way too.

Guys like this will never get it. I'm feeling disenchanted.

Also, to the OP...I learned about it late too. I wish I had learned earlier for the same reasons.

I was 57 when I found out. I told you I understood.


Merle

Not many people want a "loser", no matter what gender they are; insert whatever socially undesirable "impediment" in the place of "loser" and it's just the same.

Money impeded
looks impeded
brains impeded
socially impeded
status impeded
strength/health impeded
et cetera

The more of the impediments you have the greater the likelihood of people finding you undesirable as a mate (survival and all that).

I think that smacks at little bit of distorting things to suit your thesis.

One think I've noticed about people who complain about how picky people are, is they are nearly always blissfully unawares about how picky they are and in fact everyone is. There is nothing especially 'wrong' with being selective.

Everyone has some sort of requirement, and unless you have no personality it usually a bit more complex and individual than the aforementioned. Or are you saying it is not for you?

Even if you take want you say as absolute truth I'm sure there will be a subset of people that meet your requirements if you use your head. Use what you have, I wouldn't focus on the negatives, unless you hope to improve them.

Er...Fight fire with fire?:twisted:

He may be (very) misguided but it takes one to know one. I didn't figure out how to have true reciprocal friends until I was 23-24

You are only a looser if you think you are, in my book.

Hmm your experience sounds similar to mine, especially regarding career. I don't want to have a fancy career making tons of money, I'm going to be a math teacher... and use the free time to write music in some capacity.

Are there no women out there that are so focused on money and careers? I would imagine many this is a concern, but I think there are probably some... the more creative/free-thinking types that don't care at all.

Of course there are women out there who dont care about how much money a guy makes just like there are guys who dont care about what size boobs or how skinny a women isn't.

They're good at hiding though so you have to be sneaky when hunting them so dont wear bright colors.

So they'll run away from my brightly colored Hawaiian Shirts...

That's just the kind of girl I'm looking for...