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10 Jan 2008, 12:25 am

When you both agree. This may be done by unspoken agreement (may work better for NTs). It may be by direct question (I like this method myself). There is also the Facebook method mentioned by Alex.

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10 Jan 2008, 2:25 am

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When you ask her and she says yes.

Maybe it would be better like that for some of us, easier? but that might be considered old fashioned by most people now I think, may not be used that much, and it makes me wonder as well as the OP when two people are officially girlfriend and boyfriend.

Unknown territory for me

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10 Jan 2008, 2:40 am

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gwenevyn wrote:

When you ask her and she says yes.

A big problem for aspies is that as our culture grows more varied, there are no standard ways of doing things anymore and we can't memorize those rules. >_< Personally I'd prefer for a guy to err of the side of being a bit too old-fashioned than a bit too ...uh... unpredictable? But there are all kinds of women out there, including those who would be offended at the notion of being asked so formally. I think they're in the minority but I truly don't know.

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10 Jan 2008, 2:59 am

Some perhaps might feel offended or at least think of it as a gender role thing to be expected from each, which they would consider to be something outdated.

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10 Jan 2008, 10:56 pm

gwenevyn wrote:

When you ask her and she says yes.

I agree.

Assumed exclusivity is a gigantic pain in the rear.

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10 Jan 2008, 10:57 pm

alex wrote:

The simple answer is when you guys update your facebook profile.

Believe it or not, some people aren't on facebook!!

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11 Jan 2008, 3:32 am

juliekitty wrote:

Believe it or not, some people aren't on facebook!!

What? Now that's just not true, and you know it!
It usually happens like this.

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11 Jan 2008, 1:27 pm

WurdBendur wrote:

juliekitty wrote:

Believe it or not, some people aren't on facebook!!

What? Now that's just not true, and you know it!
It usually happens like this.

Lol yeah thats more like sometimes but still facebook is pretty popular makes you social depends on your view of social.

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11 Jan 2008, 1:33 pm

When one of the following occurs:

1. You agree to having a monogamous relationship or being bf/gf, whether is implicit or explicit.

2. he/she says you are bf/gf and you don't tell him/her that is not true.

3. You call him/her your bf/gf and he/she doesn't tell you it isn't true.

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11 Jan 2008, 3:02 pm

Answer:First Kiss

The First kiss means it's good to go. The first kiss means both of you are attracted to each other, and can possibly fall in love.

Anything else is either a sign of interest, or too early.

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11 Jan 2008, 3:54 pm

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No way. I've kissed a lot of girls that I had no interest in having a relationship with.

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11 Jan 2008, 6:02 pm

WurdBendur wrote:

juliekitty wrote:

Believe it or not, some people aren't on facebook!!

What? Now that's just not true, and you know it!
It usually happens like this.

hehe that is good.

really, do a lot of people choose that description on facebook? i saw it once and thought it sounded well dodgy.

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11 Jan 2008, 8:58 pm

BlackBull wrote:

Answer:First Kiss.

Anybody who's ever played spin-the-bottle will be quite alarmed to find that they've now got several new relationships that they never planned.

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11 Jan 2008, 8:59 pm

yeah, that was funny.

I won't be on facebook. It's so hopelessly bourgeois, not to mention their shameful privacy issues.

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11 Jan 2008, 9:00 pm

WurdBendur wrote:

Anybody who's ever played spin-the-bottle will be quite alarmed to find that they've now got several new relationships that they never planned.

hee, hee

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11 Jan 2008, 9:04 pm

LVBen wrote:

BlackBull wrote:

No way. I've kissed a lot of girls that I had no interest in having a relationship with.

True that. That kiss is just a for-the-record start of the GF/BF thing. The kiss is that symbol of trust. Of course, everyone is different, but in general terms, the first kiss is the official start for considering to start that relationship

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