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Same here, to both Pugly and Mark. I feel really awkward when anybody touches me in a friendly (as in, non-romantic) way except for children and old people. With almost anybody else, as Pugly said, my nervous system reacts as if I were being attacked or being approached sexually.

its better not to think about that stuff if you arent getting any. all it does is bum you out that its not really happening. yes it will make you cold and bitter but hey thats what happens. and besides bitterness makes you stronger and more independent. hm maybe im being cynical or sarcastic iono

I don't even necessarily dislike touch, I'm just so unused to it.

In certain situations I have become comfortable with touch, and I do really enjoy it then.

Knowing when to touch others though... that's impossible to learn without a guide or experimentation. But I don't want to be viewed as the guy that touches too much...ick I've met such people... always gives me the creeps.

That unfamiliarity is kind of why I hate it. Not sure how to react to it makes it uncomfortable, being made regularly uncomfortable by something makes me dislike it!

I don't mind touch if I know how to react to it, for example handshakes are fine (unless they hold for too long or do something else which is not standard). I also love touch with a significant other when I can get that.

IF you were reading the thread you would notice that it is not about sex...