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and it's all my fault ;( YAYNESS! :DDD

btw, most of woman dont want sex, they want relationships... <_<'

she doesnt. i dont think shes lying...

ok, you know what i think, just have to wait and see what happens. theres nothing you can do actually <_<

You aren't looking hard enough!

I agree with LVBen. Trying to hook up with a girl online and being so involved in someone you haven't met just spells disaster.

You don't know anything about this woman. I don't care what she tells you. Take it with a grain of salt.

You seem to come off clingy, which is about the number one way to send a girl running. If she is not replying to you, it's time to move on. Obviously she got other things in her life, most likely a guy she likes, and is probably just looking for some attention.

You need to stop sending her messages, period. If she is not replying back, and you can see she's posting bullitins, then she is not interested in you anymore. Sounds cruel, but that's how it is.

By continueing to post comments you come off as desperate and like you can't take a hint. Obvously with our condition, we usually can't take a hint and have to have it spelled out for us.

BTW, if you know you have a tendancy to get "crushes" like this, you need to be more careful about this kind of stuff. By putting yourself in these kind of situations, talking to women haven't even met, you're only going to be torturing yourself.

I've exhausted my options, believe me. I go to a gothic industrial dance club almost every week, I've scoured the internet for like-minded people who live in the same area, at school I often just walk around and almost always I fail to see a single person that would be, to me, attractive. Yeah, personality's more important, but appearances do play a role. I'm not even that picky about appearances, I just like the goth look, and it just so happens that there are few goth girls where I live--and even less that are my age, single, and not super obese.

Trust me, if I manage to find anyone I seriously like in my area, it won't be because I'm looking.




You think I like how extreme my feelings are so soon? Half the angst is that I know it's idiotic, but I can't help it. I'm attracted to so few things and to see someone that actually has those things, it's intense.

Besides, I'm not even planning on "hooking up" at this point. I need to be friends with someone before anything else, regardless of how my feelings are.



Who are you to say how I seem to come off? You haven't read the messages we've sent each other, and it's not like I send 5 messages if she doesn't reply to 1. Besides, I have stopped sending her messages. It's entirely possible that she's just busy right now and only logs in to post some things, then goes back to work. I have other friends who are like that, one of whom has been one of my best online friends for a very long time and just can't get on for very long anymore because she's so busy with work and school.

Plus, I really DID get the feeling that she liked me from the messages she sent. She liked how much we had in common, she seemed genuinely impressed by some of the things I said, giving me many compliments and saying I had brillaint ideas. She even seemed nervous, like she thought I'd stop talking to her if she said too much. She's not a flirty girl, and I can usually tell whether a girl likes me or not. I've been through so many times when I liked a girl and she didn't feel the same way that I can always tell if she doesn't like me. Every thing this girl's said to me has implied she does.

Also don't forget that she took a whole month to reply to even that first message. I think she's just busy with her life right now.



You act like I can control who I get crushes on. I can't. It's not a matter of "being careful," those kinds of feelings can't be controlled. You can only control your actions.