Do girls break boy's hearts INTENTIONALLY?

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I still don't see how that's lying. We're at least attracted enough to flirt.

However, we both know nothing's going to come of it. I guess I can see that if someone took it seriously and then was disappointed, he could perceive it as lying. Especially if he were aspie...



So instead of saying, "Hi Bob. I really like your tie," I should say, "Hi Bob. I think you're mildly attractive, and would like to engage in some casual banter, but have no intention of engaging in romantic activity with you"?

Or, should I always remain totally straight-faced with any guy who doesn't have at least a 75% chance with me?

Man, would THAT ever be depressing!

You guy's ever heard this term, flirting is dancing with the devil Do you know why they say that?

Flirting is a form of human interaction, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest in the other person. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated.

The origin of the word flirt is obscure. The Oxford English Dictionary (first edition) associates it with such onomatopoeic words as flit and flick, emphasizing a lack of seriousness; on the other hand, it has been attributed to the old French "Conter fleurette", which means "to (try to) seduce" by the dropping of flower leaves, that is, "to speak sweet nothings". This expression is no longer used in French, but the English gallicism to flirt has made its way and has now become an anglicism.

Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person's interest in courtship, which can continue into long term relationships. Alternatively, it may simply be a prelude to casual sex with no continuing relationship.

In other situations, it may be done simply for immediate entertainment, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.

People who flirt may speak and act in a way that suggests greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without actually saying or doing anything that breaches any serious social norms. One way they accomplish this is to communicate a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used.

Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs. Among these, at least in Western society, are:

julie When the married guy at work says, "Wow, what a great dress. You always look so nice. You can visit my cube anytime," and I bat my eyelashes, smile, and say "Thank you," how is that a lie?

or it may be viewed as "cheating" if the person is already in a romantic relationship with someone else.

Eye contact, batting eyelashes, etc.
"Protean" signals, such as touching one's hair
Casual touches; such as a woman gently touching a man's arm during conversation
Smiling suggestively
Winking
Sending notes, poems, or small gifts
Flattery
Online chat is a common modern tactic, as well as other one-on-one and direct messaging services
Footsie, the "feet under the table" practice
Teasing
Consistent meeting

While some of the subconscious signs are universal across cultures, flirting etiquette varies significantly across cultures which can lead to misunderstandings. There are differences in how closely people should stand (proxemics), how long to hold eye contact ( why they don't like us starring & other stuff it can mean too ), and so forth.


Really allot of people are ending relationships, & hurting others as they don't know what crossing the line is as they take it from they point of view, the other party needs to know the limits, it's really for single people the most.

Unless you want more than you & him in a relationship i.e:- a open relationship, & your on the same lvl as the other party...

I could say exactly the same thing about men.

Men often misread attention from women. They think just because the woman talks to them or smiles when she's talking, then she's coming onto them. When I was younger, men often thought that I liked them just because I talked to them and I was polite whenever someone said 'hi' or tried to make small talk. As I got older, I learned that you can't really be friends with most men because they get the wrong impression.

Bingo

I do often worry that I'm leading men on, by being overly friendly to them. If I can tell that they like me, and I don't reciprocate, I worry about it a lot, because I can't bring myself to be rude, but they need to know I'm not interested.

I've had men be very flirtatious with me and then say that they have girlfriends, think both sexes do it for the ego boost

bingo

damn teases anyway

A little bit of both. All girls love attention, so they'll do whatever it takes to get it. Including flirting. Breaking a heart is just the collateral damage associated with girls flirting. I don't think realize they hurt you so bad when they do this.

Other women like to break boys hearts because they want the boy to come back to them. Women love to be chased, and what better way than to break a boy's heart and see him crawling back?

Twisted? Yes.

Like an aspie doesn't realize his general social blunders are hurting people?

Oh, give it up. Guys start it as often as girls do, if not more.

I haven't noticed guys hating women's attention much, that's for sure.

Personally, as an aspie girl, I'm far more likely not to notice I'm being flirted with than to start a flirtation!

Are you telling me that girls don't like attention? And that girls don't generrally spend tons of money, time and energy on clothes, makeup and shoe selection so that they can be noticed? Is that what you're saying?

Give me a break. I think girls LIVE for attention! And yes, they flirt with guys all the time.

I didn't deny that.

I said guys are just as guilty, if not more.

Guys are always trying to get girls' attention!! Trust me on this.

If women aren't flirting to pursue a man, then what ARE they flirting for? I would have a hard time flirting with anybody that I didn't already know well and was interested in, let alone anybody that I only casually knew.

You know looking at the batting the eyelashes thing, you can see how a simple minded individual can jump to conclusions especially when it comes to things we WANT to believe.

Gave it away. I'm going to make a generalization, stand back and load your ammo . . . Men are simple minded when it comes to women.

Some do, yes, but they generally have serious psychological issues.