Monogamy... Myth? Or The Next Best Thing to Sex?

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I'm ust playing.

I'm just an anal person about wordiness. Having a newspaper editor on your but every day complaining about all the editing and chopping down he had to do makes you that way.

I remember I wrote a three page article, and he sat me down and highlighted like three paragraphs of sentences, and told me to get rid of the rest. Basically he condensed three pages into three paragraphs lol

Being able to be succint is quite an asset. I could use that sort of direction sometimes myself. Often I find I write a very long post, and then another member comes along and wraps my point up in a few sentences.


Back to the original topic, it does seem that attempts at polyamory are becoming more common. A tolerant culture doesn't prohibit much. I doubt we'll back away from that trend before many, many people give it a try.

It makes me wonder what our culture will look like, with fewer and fewer universal standards for behavior. Humans crave some amount of sameness and predictability. What will it be like when each of our neighbors has a radically different household? Will it be no big deal?

I do not think MONOGAMY is logical. I myself have been a married man before for 7 years. During the whole period of the marriage I pledged that my wife, having taken so long to find her, would be the only lady in my life forever. The trouble is when the partner decides its all over and the marriage has ended in divorce. Do you still pledge that he or she is still the only one for you? Or do you seek to find another partner further down the track, and then pledge MONOGAMY with that person.

Furthermore women were not designed for a long term sexual relationships, because they cease to be firtile usualy well before men. When they lose fertility there desire for sex decreases making them less atractive to men. Which means men seem to have been designed to fertilise as many women as possible during their lifetime. Its something genetically ingrained because in nature the moreoffspring you produce, the more chances you have that they will survive and grow healthy. It is obviously a trait past on from stone age times or earlier, because in todays world mortality rates among babies are much much lower. Meaning if you had as many offspring as possible today with as many different women as possible. You could possibly populate your own town or small city .

Also having offspring from many different women meant you could genetically diversify and improve their chances of survival even further.

OK maybe it's just an Aspie moment for me... but monogamy, followed by divorce and ANOTHER mate just isn't "mono"gamy.... maybe the word itself is contradictory. English is like that. It confuses me because my native language is American.

I do believe in monogamy. I was married for three years. The only reason that I am not, is that she filed for divorce.

I am currently dating again (after waiting about three years). I have found another girl, and we are discussing marriage. As soon as I can stabalize my finances, I plan on popping the question.

She is actually a virgin. We plan on waiting until marraige. Thus, it does happen