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26 Jan 2008, 9:33 pm

I can't think of a marriage with a difference of more than 30 IQ points between the partners that has lasted.... If a man didn't say he wanted an intelligent wife... he's not saying very much about his own IQ now is he??

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26 Jan 2008, 9:37 pm

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I want an equal.

I never thought I'd live to hear a man say that. Amazing!! ! :thumright:

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26 Jan 2008, 10:39 pm

juliekitty wrote:

Of course personality's important.

I wouldn't last long with a brilliant jerk. But I also wouldn't last long with a really nice guy who couldn't keep up with me in conversation.

Agreed. I've dated both. Unbearable, long-term.

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26 Jan 2008, 11:33 pm

because we want to get la*d... well, aside from that
after all that time on the mattress, eventually you have to get up and talk...

another possibility is that intelligent women are more inventive in ars amorica...

courtesans of many cultures and periods of history were known for their schooling, and conversational abilities..and highly prized for this alone. Why it took us so long to let all women have the same educational privileges...

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27 Jan 2008, 12:40 am

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If a man didn't say he wanted an intelligent wife... he's not saying very much about his own IQ now is he??

very true. I can't respect a man who is dating a dumb woman. A real man wants an equal, period.

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27 Jan 2008, 1:25 am

juliekitty wrote:

zee wrote:

he clearly feels that there are a lot of stupid women

Which, of course, there are. There are a lot of stupid men, too.

That's why people mention relative intelligence when discussing preferences.

Well, this may sound really lame, but I don't think of people as intelligent or stupid. Without getting too bogged down in semantics, what is intelligence? Is it just being able to understand your conversation? Surely that has more to do with compatibility, ie how much you have in common.

And as for myself, I certainly don't discuss preferences when it comes to dating people, but maybe that's cause I've never used a dating service. I mean, how else would that work? You meet someone, you either feel you click with them, or you don't... which determines whether you will date them or not. When is there time to sit down and make a list of 'what I prefer in a mate'? Why would anyone do that?

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27 Jan 2008, 2:53 am

Guys I think the most realistic thing any man can hope for is the advice a galpal gave me on my girl friend back in college.

Me" Well what'd you think?'

Galpal" Ithink you should marry her."

Me " Wha . . .WHY?"

Galpal " Cause she puts up with your sh*t."

:!: :lol:

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27 Jan 2008, 3:14 am

WurdBendur wrote:

Sheesh, I know. Why would you want to spend the rest of your life interacting with an intelligent human being you genuinely care about when you could just have a slave? She'll clean house and do all the dirty work, and she'll let you have sex with her whenever you want, and you'll never have to suffer her to think or express herself. Now that's living!

*applauds*

Very well said.

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27 Jan 2008, 4:16 am

Au Contraire,

Wouldnt that be like having your Mom around all aver again. ( Except for the sex part )

Do you really want that? No one EVER has anything other than piece and quiet with thier Mom around right? :roll:

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27 Jan 2008, 5:19 am

Veresae wrote:

I'm hard-wired to find airheads unattractive.

If I'm romantically interested in someone, then I find having intelligent conversations with them sorta romantic. Heh.

me too, completely

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27 Jan 2008, 5:21 am

pbcoll wrote:

A girl that only wanted chocolate, flowers and romantic dinners would be very boring.

yep, lotsa those :twisted:

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27 Jan 2008, 5:23 am

pakled wrote:

Why it took us so long to let all women have the same educational privileges...

Because it makes us uppity. That's why.

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27 Jan 2008, 5:26 am

russian wrote:

I think a low stress, mothering/nurse type is what most of us men would prefer.

No. Err low stress? Why would I want someone to mother me? I've already got one of those.

I do prefer women I can converse with.

You sound similar to my granddad though. His first wife (grandma) was too smart so he couldn't say what he liked without the possibility of bing challenged. His second wife is very nice but wouldn't ever disagree with him on intellectual matters. She is also very needy so drives everyone else up the wall. So pretty much co-narcissist type relationship is what you should look out for. My granddad is not such bastard since he got Alzheimer's, he is actually quite nice apparently.

I need someone who I can converse with on the same level. it would drive me mad if they just agreed with me all the time.

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27 Jan 2008, 5:30 am

0_equals_true wrote:

His first wife (grandma) was too smart so he couldn't say what he liked without the possibility of bing challenged.

Ah, see there's a benefit of an aspie. I shut up like no one you've ever met.

I tease my bf's that men worldwide complain women won't shut up, and yet they get a girl who doesn't talk and they b***h about that, too!

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27 Jan 2008, 5:41 am

True 'dat :oops:

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27 Jan 2008, 5:48 am

Females complain the same about males, ones who won't shut up & ones who don't talk ... ALL equally bad...

Or I like this one 'Your too nice', bad & they have a go at trying to change them, but too nice they run.

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