Dating site experiences?

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Actually I'm pretty sure I've been "above-average looking" for the last ten years and it didn't help at all. The only time I made pics of me available to the public I was contacted by homsexual guys.

As for exchanging pics in online messengers I got some weird reactions; the cases where I got compliments are few. For example things like pointing out my clothes and accusing me of "trying to look cool". Maybe it's the culture where I live - chicks here almost never take the first step and even assuming they do like you total indifference is the typical behaviour; it's like they don't give a damn - they'd rather wait and choose one from those trying to pick them up (which never fail to appear and are often a walking stereotype).

Also these are women who mostly don't get hit on otherwise, so they shouldn't actually be the choosers.

Its all a numbers game. Mail 50 or so of them that you like and chances are you'll end up hanging out with one. Ive met 10 girls online this year already and IM having a hard time chosing! lol Numbers, number, and numbers .

If any of you want to use this generic "online hello" message feel free. I get a lot of responses using it. Let me know if it works for any of you.



"ha Intros are always fun. Hi, Im (your name). Whats fun today? Im enjoying the scenery of Montana and the ski hills while Im on leave. Going back to Oklahoma in a few days. So would you rather give Peter Griffin candy or cancer? Randomness is the sweet nectar of sanity . No, Im no wacko just on here making some new friends. lata"

Oh and girls are suckers for dogs and cats! If you have any put their pics up too.

Why do you care? If you have so much confidence in your looks, I bet your just fine. Zing them right back

Kalister1 is a walking stereotype; he seriously looks like a bum. I gots lice.

50? I'd be lucky to find much more than 10 in my area that I would be at all interested in - the overwhelming majority of profiles that are not blank are somehting like 'outgoing girl who likes to hang out looking for cool guy no weirdoes please' interests listed are clubbing and shopping, and that's it (varietions of this are specifying the guy has to be tall or fit, or adding pubbing as another interest). The vast majority of those that list a racial preference it's one that excludes me. The remaining profiles are usually 'Chrisitan girl seeking godfearing guy' (I'm an atheist) or otherwise obviously incompatible. The few remaining ones usually just don't reply.

I am in the same boat as you dude, and in the same area. Although i have yet to meet any fo these Christian girls you speak of. No disrespect to religion intended. Most of the girls all seem to just enjoy getting drunk, or have pictures of themselves in their underwear. It's just boring and uninteresting. Ican't hold down a good chat or get to know someone who just tihnks of life as one big piss up, i just can't find that fun.

I actually had one girl who messaged me on POF, within a few days all she would every say to my questions was yeh lol xx or just lol xx. I ask ehr what ambitions she had and she said she had none, I asked what she did most weeks and she just said drinkin lol. She said she loved pulling men on POF too. I just immediatley deleted her off msn and have not spoken to her since. I just found it so predictable and boring.

And whats with using text speak in a profile too? How annoying is that? It's always a pleasure to read properly worded profiles, and they are always much more interesting and you feel more inclined to send them a message because the person is probably more mature.

Think that's location lads - I get the impression that that's what the majority of british girls on dating sites are like (or think that's what the guys are looking for!?!). I've had much the same problem when searching profiles - can't even be bothered doing it anymore!

I know what you mean there too, I'm not even a fan when texting (unless there's alot to say) but after reading some of the profiles it seems there are few with a good grasp of the English language!

The irony is that there was one profile on there written in text speak and she decided to put.
"Come on, it's 2007, we all should be able to speak properly." ( text speak edited out )

Seriously, I won't get in touch with anyone who can't use the language correctly, usually it means immaturity and the person probably has a dead end job and goes down the pub each night. I might sound fussy but we all need standards. People might think Aspies have difficulty holding down a good conversation but some fo the time it's the fact the other person can;t say much about themselves. I don't think any Aspie wants to talk on and on about that night down the pub.

Not too concerned about dead end jobs - I'm more concerned about them not having a job at all (as a fair few near me seen to) often as they've got kids already!

This type often do the text talk and I think they'd struggle with holding an intelligent conversation, whether that be at the pub or anywhere else!

I wonder if they were drunk when they signed up to it

But on a serious note. I know what happens in pubs, and what happens in clubs and the silly things people do when we get drunk. So I want girls who can tell me something interesting. Like an ambition or a gig they went too. Someone with loads of hobbies and actually fills up their profile. I just want to meet someone who has an interesting, fun and diverse life. if someone wants to go to pubs all day long then let them. I just won't message them, but the fact 90% of profiles about have this EXACT same thing listed and nothing else really makes things tedious, like finding that needle in a haystack. I know love is not easy but surely people could make more of an effort to be diverse.

Yeah, you'd think that, but many (NT) people are sheep, they follow what everyone else does. That other 10% that are different will be inundated with messages, hence many getting no reply - they can pick and choose the best. Like I find often happens in life - the 10% (if that) that I like are often already taken...

It's not all bad though. Just today i met a really nice girl, shes just looking for friends at the moment but I messaged her, told her I would love to be friends and get to know her and we have been swapping messages all day. The key is just resistance as after dusting off all the same old dirt you can discover gems

Well to go go back a page what I meant by "chatting up" is a phrase I'd adpoted from our UK family. Meaning basically to walk up to a woman/man and start hitting on her.

Also I saw a HUGE emphasis on 'what do you do?" "how much do you make?"

I'm an artist. I make stuff. I make a lot of stuff!

ALL the profiles had the same two things in them. They were "laid back" and they wanted a man who had a goal ,and plans.

Well my goal is to make a better puppet movie than the last one I made. How well does that sound next to " I want to make senior VP."


Its a special intrest dating site, no its not Aspie Affection, what the hell are WE supposed to say when they say no weirdos?

I think it works pretty much the same way, but there is a big difference in that it is easier to ignore someone online than it is to ignore someone that is standing right next to you.